Moon's effect

thought

2012-01-18T06:56:00.001+01:00

Life is not about surviving, but life is about pursuit happiness.

#notetomyself

Life for me is not about stay in my comfort zone. Not. As in my quarter-life, i had already moved about 4 times, means every 4-5 years i had moved once. That doesnt include when i moved house, like in NL, i've already moved my address about 5 times.

That always same apply to me. The idea about moving looks horrible, but the one i moved, i'm gonna enjoy my (new) house. I'm gonna survive. Even once, my besfriend told me, that i am a survivor. :) And i find happines, on my journey. I find my love too.

Wish list 2012

2011-12-23T16:06:00.001+01:00

Mumpung ada (waktu, kesempatan, jaringan internet, mood) yang cukup untuk meng list so-called resoulution 2012, mari kita nyolong startt... :D

Melihat ke 2011, there is good and bad, there is happy and sad, but thanks God, i make some progress, milestone this year, seperti memulai hidup di Rumah Kutu. But then again, looking for unexpected badness, seperti banyak penyakit yang bertambah di 2011 ( maag, sinus dan asma).

Resolusi 2012 saya :

1. Hidup sehat
    Yang berarti : olahraga, jalan kaki yang lebih banyak, ga males gerak, menghindari Junk Food, dan
    makan sayur; buah lebih banyak. Ga mau resolusi lebih kurus, karena kalo lebih kurus itu resolusi tiap
    tahun yang ga pernah terlaksana :p

2. Fokus pada prioritas hidup
    Apa prioritas saya? Keluarga.    #nuffsaid
     *YES,iamafeministandwesternminded,butinheartimstillanIndonesianwomen

3. Berani.
    Yes, berani. Berani untuk berpindah dari zona nyaman, berani memulai sesuatu yang baru. Berani
     memulai   kegiatan dan hobi baru, berani belajar sesuatu yang baru.

Sepertinya tiga dulu saja, dan saya yakin tiga hal itu sudah mencakup semua yang lebih baik untuk saya.

Far well 2011, Thank you for being nice with us :)
Welcome 2012, and I'm ready to getting ride into your journey .Dont play too hard.

half-world

2011-12-16T13:54:00.002+01:00

Miss you, Amsterdam. ;)

Signs

2011-12-09T11:53:00.001+01:00

Suatu hari di sebuah sore yang indah, saya sedang mengendarai mobil saya sendiri. Hari itu saya bisa pulang cepat, jadi masih menikmati matahari senja yang berwarna orange ceria.

Rute hari itu sebenarnya sederhana, pulang ke rumah kutu. Tetapi, hari itu, saya ingin mencoba rute. Maklumlah, rute rumah kutu dari kantor sekarang punya banyak alternatif jalan pulang. Dan dengan pedenya, saya tidak menyalakan GPS saya.

Rute jalan pulang sebenernya sederhana, tapi saya tidak pernah mengingatnya. Karena Jakarta adalah kota yang cukup mempunyai banyak signs penunjuk jalan, saya pede saja.

Di awal jalan saya pede, karena saya sering melewatinya, begitu masuk ke Casablanca, saya tiba2 melihat signs kalau saya berada di jalan yang sebaliknya, ttp ternyata itu adalah signs buat orang yang ingin memutar, jadi saya jalan terus. Melewati jalan casablnca menuju stasiun tebet. Saya tahu, kalau lewat stasiun tebet berarti saya nyasar, oleh karena itu saya putar balik dan masuk ke tempat nongkrong tebet. Saya tahu, saya berada di jalan yan benar. Setelah itu, sebenarnya saya blank, dan disitulah peran penunjuk jalan sungguh berarti. Setiap penunjuk jalan yg menuliskan pancoran saya ikuti, setiap lampu merah, saya refleks mencari petunjuk jalan, hingga saya sampai ke Pancoran, jalan yang saya hafal.

Dan saya merenung, begitupun hidup. Kita tahu tujuan hidup kita, tapi kita tidak tahu jalan mana yang mau kita lewati. Untuk itu, di setiap perempatan, kita selalu melihat penunjukjalan untuk menunjukan tempat kita jalan. Tidak yakinpun, kita mencari penunjuk jalan memutar dan mulai berputar kembali menuju tempat awal dimana kita tidak yakin. Sudah terlanjur jauh, kalau GPS saya suka teriak " Searching for alternative route " dan begitulah kita, cara agar kita bisa mencapai tujuan kita.

Kita tidak tahu bagaimana keadaan jalan kita menuju tempat tujuan kita, dan mencari petunjuk jalan pun banyak macamnya, ada yg mengadalkan orang untuk ditanya ataupun GPS, apakah jalan yang mereka tunjukan itu benar ? Semuanya relativ. Saya percaya petunjuk jalan hijau DLAJJ itu adalah kata hati kita, karena kata hati sebenarnya tidak pernah berbohong, tapi bercabang sesuai dengan keinginan yang memberatkan kita.

Compicated yah? Mungkin karena kita adalah manusia yang super complicated, yang selalu ingin membahagiakan orang lain di sekitar kita, dan suka tertatih-tatih dalam menentukan prioritas hidup. Dan semakin tua umur saya, begitu susahnya untuk meninggalkan comfort zone saya. Padahal, apa salahnya untuk memutar balikan hidup sebelum kita terlambat menyesali kenapa tidak melakukan hal itu.

Saya rindu masa (lebih) muda saya, karena saya begitu yakin untuk mengambil langkah yang bukan seperti kebanyakan orang. Menjadi berbeda dan berani.

Ketika saya berbincang dengan teman saya, kita tertawa miris begitu menyadari setiap tahun kita mempunyai keinginan yang sama, tapi karena kita terjebak di dalam comfort zone yang kita buat sendiri, kita tidak melakukannya. Dan kita berdua berjanji, di tahun 2012 ini kita harus melakukan banyak hal yang berbeda dan menentukan jalan hidup kita berikutnya. Agar tidak ada lagi rasa penyesalan.

Karena, sebetulnya, kami masih muda dan masih banyak perempatan jalan sebelum menuju tujuan hidup kamii.

Bulan, Di perempatan jalan yang lain :)

Cutey house

2011-11-29T04:01:00.001+01:00

Well, the house is belong to one on my cousin in Pamulang. Just love her cutey house :)

xxx

#JFW2012

2011-11-18T10:17:00.001+01:00

Just Cavalli - 16/11/2011

More on #jfw2012

I didnt captured lot of picture with my iphone since the light wasnt proper enough for my iphone camera :D. So, im gonna update few photos from this. This year, i think there is no blogger arounds compare than last year, however, there is lot of artist arounds, which make this event more interesting for paparazzi, i guess.

So, if you read my blog at the time i post this, and havent got any chance to see the JFW, just go to Pasific Place asap and bear with the national fashion exhibition :) more photos on www.jakartafashionweek.co.id

*as today, i cant go there ( and not willing to, super tired) and trying to catch up with my deadline.

#JFW2012 - Jakarta Fashion Week 2012

2011-11-14T07:40:00.001+01:00

So,.. here we go again.. time goes fast, and JFW is back here.

Suasana Green Room - JFW #2012

Ki Artic Show, Minggu 13/11/11

Eva Bun, Promenade Minggu 12/11/11

The Job #11elevenlive

2011-11-11T10:43:00.001+01:00

So, i realize that today 11-11-11 and i've been aware about this #11elevenlive quite while ago, but i just forget that instantly as time goes.

Thus, i think the pic above was really suitable with the topic that i pick, routine. I just took the pic earlier on this day, with my Iphone 4 and edited it on pic stich and instagram.

Those are my routines, on my job that i involved right now, a PC, a telephone, a calender, and pile of magazines that i work on.

And today, h-4 hours before 12 nov, i still post this on office, since tommorow is the opening of Jakarta Fashion Week, one of big event that my corporate did.

So, this is really the day that I remember. As i know, maybe 10-20 years ahead, the situation will be change, and i will remember this day, as my own 11-11-11 day

* i know, on 10 years ahead, i'll be laugh because of today i use iphone and doing instagram, that maybe on that day it will be so last yearsss... :D

Happy 11-11-11.

A post a day

2011-11-03T10:28:00.001+01:00

Kalau lagi bulan Desember gini, suka tiba-tiba pengen eksis dengan a post a day di blog inih, yang kenyataanya sih selalu ga bisa *anyway.

long time no post. No specific reason. Or, why i should explain something ?

Di blog ini, aku juga mempost foto ku dan deni di acara kawinan mba tina. No specific reason, just love the our faces who looks so happy. I love our happy faces :)

i love us :*

Anyway, I really want to post something fashion-ly like this...


Baju : Pak Buyung Tailor ; Bag : vintage punya mama ; Aksesoris : The little things she needs ; Sepatu : Payless by MAP ; make up : myself & rani ; hair-do : salon

The 'it' gadget

2011-10-03T08:36:00.003+02:00

Thus, i'm in the mood for sharing our own gadgets.

As i quite happy with my gemini blackbery 3G as my phone for this last 2 years, I still think that I need another gadgets ( Ipad) just to fulfill my passion for games (hehehehe). I love Ipad, however the size makes me reluctant to bring it mobile and since the internet connection in Indonesia not good for 3G Ipad, im thinking to find another gagdget for gaming, Fortunately, my hubby's office give Iphone 4 for bonus, and i claimed it as mine as usual :D.

Well, since those gadget have been reviewed by lot of people, i want to share gadget that I love to have to support my other gadget, which is Samsung E 1150. :D

Why i love this product?
- The model : flip phone. I've been eyeing on flip phone of any brand since long ago, however the price never set me up, and the choices of flip phone in Indonesia is not much compare to other phones.
- The price : Only Rp. 325.000,- ( ambassador price). well, that explain it all.
- The battery longevity : Well, this is what i mean the feature to support my other gadgets. Since BB and Iphone the battery only last for only 12 hours, this phone can long for hmmm more than 5 days? Actually, i just charges on last week Sunday, the day when I bought this phone, and until now it still have full power. What can I say? :D

Anyway, just don't think any fancy for this phone. The feature only simple, what important for me is only the mobile phone to call and send text, others features will be plus, but not necessary. And this suit well with this Samsung. The feature, beside basics, only have radio, alarm & super simple game app. Even this Samsung, on this era 21st century, doesnt have any camera application. That simple.

So, since my others gadgets only last for 12 hours, for urgent matter, worry not, my Samsung E 1150 will back it up to me :D Yihaa..

I miss this blog

2011-09-29T11:50:00.003+02:00

Truly. As always, i cant write any post while im on office, but i can be so productive while i were at home. But the wi-fi connection in my house is so slow... Anyway.

My feeling right now? Mellowyellow.. just like ababil :D

Well, now i'm posting some photos from my last holiday to Jogja ( a week before Ramadhan, which is 2 months ago)

The first one is at Candi Prambanan and second one at Phonix hotel. Very nice.

2011-09-29T05:34:00.001+02:00

Lomo Action Sampler 4 Lens

2011-07-21T08:21:00.000+02:00

Our ( ehm, me) new toy :) - Lomo Action Sampler 4 Lens. Please welcome our pic results... Actually this lomo could take motion pics and freeze it into their 4 lens, but it not turns well on me, for second try, i'd love to try more motion pic to taken :)

yeyy... i love it... :)

Naik Kereta Api... tut.. tut.. tut....

2011-07-20T06:40:00.000+02:00

Dengan ini, resmi sudah semua public transport di JAKARTA pernah saya rasakan.

Yups, dikarenakan letak rumah yang sangat dekat dengan stasiun Kalibata, dan juga traffic kemacetan dari Pancoran ke Kuningan sudah sangat tidak bisa ditolelir oleh akal sehat ( untuk jarak cuman 10 km begitu, butuh waktu sekitar 1,5 jam? unbelievable) akhirnya saya memutuskan untuk menjadi salah satu commuter. :D

Anyway, yang paling parah hari ini deh. Rencananya kita mau pergi naik mobil seperti biasa, berangkat jam 8, udah sampai jalan2 kecil menuju pancoran. Ternyata stuck parah. Akhirnya karena si suami mau nguji mahasiswa jam 10. Kita puter balik untuk naik kereta. Dan viola, 30 menit kemudian sudah sampai di Sudirman.

Andaikan saja... ada kereta ke Sudirman jam 8 pagi, pasti ak naik kereta setiap hari*

*fyi, kereta ke sudirman itu jam 7.35 atau jam 9.10, which the first one is too early for me and 9.10 is too late for me. :D

2011-06-28T12:25:00.000+02:00

This week definitely holiday for all of Indonesian people. :) Mine is starts on friday :D which highlighting to accompany Upik during her visit in Jakarta. Yuppieeee... We are planning to visit Pulau Bidadari on Pulau Seribu and some touristy sites on Jakarta.

Can't waitttttt.....

*after all that ive been through this month, i think i deserve this holiday. Thank's Lord.

Officially moved to Rumah Kutu

2011-06-20T07:40:00.000+02:00

Jadi sudah official.
Saya sudah tinggal di Rumah Kutu.

*masih banyak kardus yang belum di unpacking, buat ngantor masih pakai baju seadanya yang ketemu dari kardus2 itu. Kemarin asmanya (nafas bunyi doank sih) sempet kambuh, ga bisa tidur jam 3 pagi, dan merengsek ke kamar sebelah, buka2 kardus buat cari vics :D.

**yang menyenangkan, sekarang sudah bisa nonton StarWorld lagiii :D asyikkk nonton Master Chef Australia :D

Alhamdullilah

2011-06-16T17:08:00.000+02:00

Yes, im going to write it to share to my future me. As I know, the situations that I had this past few days, will gonna come back again in the futre, not exactly the same, but it will be similiar. I know.

As I spoke to myself, what if i just closed myself, forced to open until I came to this point of time. No suffering, maybe. But i dont think i can feel relieve like i got today. The feeling relieve that you know that youre doing the right thing to do, and it comes up well. Not finished yet, but at least, i can surely handle it.

And i had the nice talked with someone I respect so much between these 3 years, and it felt good. Thank you mbanya :)

Worrying gets you nowhere*

2011-06-15T17:16:00.000+02:00

*this is quote from Trinity on her third book.

Yesterday, i was reading my 2002-2003 archives, my first years on blogging, when i was on 2nd & 3rd year of high school. My high school stories, and my memories keeps coming back.

During almost 7 years, there are lot things being going through on me. I always on something, my mother's sick, my ababil love stories, my hard time on college in NL,my wedding preparation. I always on something that I always begging on God to keep me sane during the process. To keep assiting me during the process.
However, looking back all my situations, I get an conclusion : I always able to going through all my situations. I always receive it well. Not a happy ending, but the situations never get any worse.

Looking back to my 7 years ago, I have (maybe) a better and much spirit to break all the things back then, I have lot guts to get what I want, and maybe worry less than today. Of course, there are lot of improvement as well. I have more empathy today, not that ignorant. I am more worry, because i know my responsibily and aware with the consuquences. I am more calm when i got something that disturbs me, not like before.

Today, i have layers of worries. Worry of this, worry of that. Thinking this and thinking that. Sometimes i just want to mute my brain in order to keep my brains stops thinking my problem for a while. Stop worrying about future and start live my life. Ups and dows are coming together, make my brain can't stop working.

And i was just start thinking, is that become grown-up become this difficult, i feel like i want to crawl & crying on the blanket waiting for my mom coming and kiss my forehead. What a childiss thought, i said.

I am worrying i can't handle the situations, but sometimes maybe what i can do is just wait and see, and doing anything that has already become my responsibilities and my area.

The thought, owh she can do that, why i can do that as well, also kills me. Baby, you cant always see neighbour's grass is grenner than you are. Dont you feel tired, baby?

But i always, keeping this to myself. Bulan, when your mother passed away and you were on NL, eventhough it was hard, you can take it well. When your mother's sick and you have to face Final Exam, you can take it well too. When your Dad planning to continue his life to the next stage and you got lot of situations going that may lead you to missjudgement, you can take it good. I remember, it was 7 months of worrying and lot of crying, but you can take it well.

This post is to remind me, you've been proof, Bulan. You always can get through for all your situations. So for now, i believe that you can take it good as well. You have all the spirits, you should worry less. You have to try, and i understands, same old same old, you better fails because you tries than fails because you never tries.

I know, you can do it. You always can do it. Thus, chin up and smile up. The problems may not fade away instantly, but there is no reason to give up easily. Give up is so not you.

Thank you my blog, thank you to reminds me to myself back then. My old-me .

this is my self-motivation post.

Rumah Kutu -almost final :D

2011-06-13T16:10:00.004+02:00

So...

Rumah Kutu is almost real in few days. Planning to move on Saturday, hope everything will be okay :).
So far, ada beberapa masalah yang jadi concern di rumah kutu :
- Sinyal HP masih banyak blank spotnya. Mudah2an sih bisa diperbaiki dengan bberapa penguat
- Parkir! apalagi hari sabtu dan minggu huuh.. untung skrg udah bisa parkir di basement nya.
- Gas nya belum masuk :( hwaduuhh... Kompor di kitchen set cantik saya masih jadi pajangan berarti :D

Tapi ada beberapa plus nya juga ternyata Kalibata Residence ini :
- Restaurant2 di bawah ternyata membantu buat ~~ibu~~ istri bekerja seperti saya :D yang menyenangkan sih ada D'Cost di bawah yang harganya super murah itu. Nasi putih aja cuman 100 boo... Lumayan ga usah masak nasi *istri pemalas* - Sebenarnya sih pengen punya mesin cuci, tapi kata tukang jualan elektronik di bawah, selain tempat buat naro mesin cucinya ga ada, katanya lebih boros krn harga air disana mahal banget. Hmmm.. Yah, laundry kiloan saya meminta bantuanmu *lagi* *eh ini plus to minus yak?
- Ga usah beli tv kabel lagi, udah disedian dari sana :) tinggal internetnya nanti dipikirkan deh... *Yang mikir sih suaminya saja*
- Karena Rumah Kutu ini sangat petite, daerah buat beres2nya juga ga banyak.. Hore!!! hihihihi

Oh ya, Berikut foto2 perkembangan terbaru dari Rumah Kutu. Can't wait. can't wait :D

Dapur Rumah Kutu, looking nice, eh? :D

Lemari + Meja rias dari kamar utama, itu sambil dari kaca keliatan ujung kepala kasur kita

Itu meja tv, disana kita berencana memakai wall paper biar agak artistik dikit :p

Kemarin sabtu kita juga sudah heboh belanja2 buat keperluan si rumah kutu, sampe kita juga niat belanja wall paper buat ditaro di kamar anak/belajar. Abisnya wall paper ini kita abis 250 ribu per roll (emang yang timbul sih, cuman menjret ajah) buat 1 dinding di tempat tidur dan tv aja abis 3 roll. Sementara di Informa kita dapat yang cuman 80 ribu, dan di belakangnya ada kayak tempelannya persis stiker gitu, jadi mestinya bisa yah kita pasang sendiri *pede* :D

Setelah belanja2 heboh yang bikin tabungan miris ituh *curhat* saya pun cuman bisa berdoa.

Rumah Kutu, kalau kamu nanti sudah saatnya disewain atau dijual, kamu bisa banyak menguntungkan kita yaaahhhh. Tabungan kita menipis nih gara2 kamu T-T. Amin....

Rumah Kutu - Updated

2011-05-30T12:30:00.000+02:00

As in schedule, it should be done on 12/13 June, and I really hope that they can make it on time. ~~*kalo gak bayar uang kos lagi booo*~~.

The kitchen is the first subject that pay our attention, since kitchen needs more time to build-up than others, so here's the lastest kitchen update. ( Basically, all has already set-up, except the gas , stove and sink )

And the others are really still in construction. What i love from my Rumah Kutu is the fact that we have big mirror ( this is so helpful to make the room more spacious). And now we still waiting for cupboards and bed room on main room, and once again, hope they can make it on timeee... :)

*eheehh that was us, back from our short trip to Bandung for our old friend, Nefry, wedding. :) and on Sunday we went to Ciawi, visited Deni's relative who sick for almost months. She is 94 years old. And we've informed that this morning she passes away. Deni said she was waiting for me to visiting her. Errr. X-)

Rumah Kutu - Kalibata Residence

2011-05-16T15:12:00.000+02:00

Sejak serah terima rumah kutu, setiap weekend kita punya kebiasaan baru, yaitu menjenguk Rumah Kutu kita. Belum diapa2in sih, jadi ruangannya keliatan agak ~~sedikit~~ luas. Berharap banget, bulan depan kita sudah bisa pindah disana. I can't wait. Eventhough i dont know how to get office from Rumah Kutu. *big grin*

Sekarang kita juga seneng banget mengunjungi Ace hardware, Informa, electronic solution, hanya untuk melihat-lihat barang untuk mengisi Rumah Kutu. well, turns up we dreaming of our landed house which hopefully, larger than this very small appartment, thus we can decorate freely. Oh our dream house, wait for us yah. *which we dont know where yet* *tunggu uangnya yah*

So, here is it... Kalibata Residence aka Rumah Kutu :) I'll keep you update :)

Ini pemandangan rumah kutu secara keseluruhan dari pintu depan
sampai teras yang seuprit di belakang itu.
Sink itu merupakan calon sink kitchen set kita nanti

Si suami lagi liat pemandangan tower sebelah dari jendela calon kamar kita

pintu depan dan pintu kamar kerja

Suaminya gaya di dalam calon kamar utama kita.

Yak, istrinya juga deh gaya :D

hola, thursday!

2011-05-05T08:50:00.000+02:00

So,... the big news that I waiting so long has been arrived!

No, not yet pregnant, teman2 semua :D *just in case ada yang bertanya, karena dengan semakin menggendutnya saya, pertanyaan itu selalu hadir minimal 3 x seminggu :D* *oh, itu tandanya saya harus olahraga yah ;D*

Tapi rumah kami, rumah 'kutu' kami, sudah resmi serah terima *hip2 hurray* *keploks2*

Maksud rumah kutu adalah, apartement kami di Kalibata Residence, kecil, cmn 30,5m2. Dua kamar tidur, dapur dan living room jadi satu, kamar mandi seiprit. Tp tetep Alhamdullilah, akhirnya pindah dari kos 2 kamar, ke tempat yang lebih besaran dan lebih privat :D.

And now I enjoy the progress of interior of my rumah kutu. Mudah2an berjalan sesuai rencana, bulan depan sudah bisa pindah kesana :)

so excited :D

Good morning, monday!

2011-04-25T04:26:00.000+02:00

It's been long time since im upload pics on my mobile camera. And here it is, random pictures for my random life for 6,5 months marriage life.

tante petty's birthday on Paregu

with Daddy di Semarang :)

with ex-inhollander @ Museum Fatahillah - Mystery of Batavia

@ Java Jazz

This is the best found! foto saya masih kecil :D liat dari kecil cemberutnya udah ada :D

Prameswari on Skype

2011-04-19T09:22:00.000+02:00

yfrog Photo : Shared by

After been 3 years, i decided to instal skype again and chatted with my girls, prameswari.

I was happy and excited, my FirstMedia handle it well, no streaming, clear voice and sound! it was just like talk face-to-face with them :)

Or maybe im just out-of-date, Skype nowadays has improve good quality, back then when i was had my LDR with Beibeb, it took lot of patience to talk with him. Wow, technology does change :D

With BBM, skype, maybe... maybe it's okay if i should having long-distance-relationship again (well, maybe :D).

these days

2011-04-18T08:54:00.001+02:00

I'd like to quote from dianarikasari blog

There are many nights I feel like not facing tomorrow and just hide under my blanket. But then under the blanket I would realize that life is about facing and overcoming challenges. It's nice to be scared, because it means that we value results and not just take things for granted...:)

This week my body acted weird, my stomach and my flu, two of my 'usual' sicks came attacked again. I feel my body trying to say something to me.

Fearness. Worryness. Bored. Sick of bad news. Sick of looking forward for a good news. sick of pressure. boredom. sick of traffic jam. sick of waiting. sick of everything-not-working-as-the-way-i-want. sick of hearing others bad news since it makes me sad too :(. sick of sick. sick of the strict of perfectness.

And feel that everything seems not right.

Actually i hate myself doing like this. I love myself when always full of spirit, doing everything with passion. The passion that keeps my responsible and excellent work.

Oh gosh.. hope this phase passed as fast as i blink my eyes. Amen.

Panas

2011-04-06T10:40:00.001+02:00

fuuh... mataharinya lg panas2nya banget. Berasa ya, kena matahari sedikit langsung pusing. Rasanya kalau gini harus siap-siap air putih, topi/apapun buat nutupin kepala, dan sunblock :)

Tentang Tante Ratna

2011-03-28T10:02:00.002+02:00

Innalilahiwainnalilahirajiun.

Hari ini ketika sedang rapat redaksi, ayah saya tiba-tiba menelfon dan mengabarkan kabar duka, tante saya, kakak ayah, Ratna Indraswari Ibrahim, meninggal dunia.

Kasihan beliau, dalam jangka waktu setahun, sudah ada 4 orang kakaknya yang berpulang.Umur memang hanya rahasia Allah.

Ratna Indraswari Ibrahim, sastrawan senior, novelis dan cerpenis yang sudah cacat sejak beliau berumur 9 tahun, inspirasi banyak orang.

Saya tiba2 teringat ketika masa kecil, ketika masa libur lebaran tiba, kami sering berkumpul di kamarnya di rumah nenek kami, dan sambil melihat buku-buku yang banyak di kamarnya, sambil sekali-kali mencuri lihat naskah-naskah cerpen yang sedang ditulis beliau. Tante ratna juga seringkali mengunakan nama-nama keponakannya untuk dijadikan nama pelakon di cerpennya.

Ketika saya sedang giat2nya menulis cerpen, orang yang pertama kali melihat juga dia, dan dia bilang kalau kamu giat, dalam jangka waktu 5 tahun sudah bisa melebih dia. Sayang sekali, banyak hal2 yang membuat saya jarang menulis cerpen lagi.

Dan saya beranjak dewasa, frekuensi saya pulang ke Malang pun menyusut sejak saya bersekolah ke Belanda. Pertemuan hanya singkat saja dan percakapan mulai jarang dilakukan.

Kalau seperti ini saya membenci diri saya yang suka malas untuk menanyakan kabar sanak saudara dan teman. Andai saja, kalau saja, menjadi kata-kata yang sudah percuma.

Dan ketika saya membaca artikel mengenai dia, saya sadar banyak hal yang saya tidak tahu mengenai dia, dan ini makin memperkuat rasa bersalah saya.

Ya Allah, maafkan segala dosa-dosanya dan terima segala amalannya. :)

Berita-berita terkait :
- kompas
- tempo

Dan berikut link kumpulan cerpennya di Kompas.

Rest in Peace, tante Ratna :)

Go Green Save Earth

2011-03-21T09:08:00.003+01:00

Setelah menjadi istri orang dan ibu rumah tangga (er,thissoundsweird),dan juga plus bekerja di Media dimana saya kenyang ajakan untuk Go Green, akhirnya saya mulai kembali bersungguh-sungguh melangsungkan kampanye itu. Ditambah lagi dengan kekesalan saya melihat sampah kantong plastik yang menumpuk di rumah, dan juga ke-sakit mata saya melihat supermarket di Indonesia begitu royalnya memberikan plastik ke customer.

Seriously, semua supermarket sedang membesar-besarkan Go Green, tapi petugas kasir mereka dengan gampangnya memberikan kantong plastik kepada pembeli. Palingan kampanye mereka cuman sampai menjual tas Go Green mereka. Well, kalau tasnya ga dipake, apa gunanya ?

Karena itu, saya mulai berjanji pada diri saya sendiri :

1. Membawa tas belanja setiap akan belanja di supermarket.
2. Kalaupun kebetulan lupa membawa tas belanja, minta hanya 1 tas plastik untuk semua belanjaan yang saya beli. Tapi kalau bisa dimasukkan di tas atau dibawwa tangan, yah sebaiknya tidak usah meminta kantong plastik.
3. Memakai kertas bekas, untuk memprint hal yang tidak (terlalu) penting.
4. Jangan malas untuk memakai kendaraan umum.
5. Mengurangi sampah botol plastik minuman (ini yang masih berat, huuu, mudah2an kalau udah tinggal di apartment lebih bisa terlaksana)
.....

Sementara yang kepikiran ini dulu. Saya orangnya juga benernya masih tidak hemat energi, tapi saya berharap, tindakan kecil sederhana seperti yang saya sebut diatas bisa membantu bumi bisa bernafas lebih lega :)

7 minutes

2011-03-11T06:53:00.002+01:00

It's 7 minutes before 1 PM. The lunch break time is almost over. But it's friday, i said to myself. So, what's different. There is flexibility in friday, that's why everyone says ' thanks god it's friday'.

I do, i do love weekend as well, but, when weekend turns quickly into monday morning. My head spinning. Why work should be the one that become your reality, not your life beside work. The time when you meet your love ones, the one when you hang with your friend. Is that because life known as hard, then we choose when we work/doing your business as your part of 'real' life ?

Ok, 3 minutes more. The radio has aired closing song. What should i conclude with this? In front of me, 3 friends are talking about their current status of job, reading competitor magazine and commented this and that, while sometimes joke and tease each other.

1 minute more baby, think about closing, conclusion. No, i can't. I learned life is not about one or two conclusion, it continuous, we will face different problems as we choose our way of life.

ok. tick. 1 PM.

And now my friend, talks about Syahrini, as I gonna push 'send' button.

Finished on 1:01 PM.

Holiday

2011-03-02T16:57:00.005+01:00

I sometimes wonder why lot of people surronds me are complaining because she/he can't take their day off due their business. Not that i'm not believing their, but, just simply take some official day off not gonna make you instantly stamped as a bad employee, ain't you?

We just need holiday. People just need to go away from their residences, to tastes something un-routinely. to keep you sane, i think.

Or maybe you say, holiday takes a lot money. Well, it's not something unsolved, tough, there are lot things to make it affordable, such as: find cheaper destination, could be local destination, the one that you only needs 3-4 hours ride from your home. A cheap holiday also could be a overseas destination. The key is : Plan your holiday ; find promo flight, book promo hotel or go for hostel, travelling with public transportation, or also you can bring/cook your own food to tight your budget. I've done all of those, and those not gonna less your happiness, that's the art of holiday, the one that you can tell and remember.

The important thing with your holiday is you are really have full right to turn off your mobile phone. I know you can't fully ignore with all incoming work calling, but, just answer the urgent ones, the others can wait.

Cloned Dutch people, they have their 21 days day-off (even in their first-year of job contract), when they say their on holiday, universe knows that she/he can't disturb, even bill can postponed (a while) because ones on holiday.

well, in the last, you work your as* hard, you get paid, then you deserves holiday. You're not robot, You're human who deserves be a tourist, curious something new, taste different culture, and having fun with it.

I'm so glad, grown-up in a family that fancy with holiday. I enjoyed road trip to my parent's destination, Malang. I love hanging with my cousins after that. I love tasting local coulinare. I love being out from my home.

And i am so lucky having a husband who thinks the same.

Because life just once, why dont you live it to the fullest ?

Currently on my mind

2011-02-08T04:40:00.006+01:00

1. Kitchen Set Kalibata Residence

2.Traveling to Japan ( ok,blame to Upik, this ever since be my traveling dream destination)

3. Blackberry Torch. (kode2 buat suaminya)

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4. Continue my study...

*amin*

Yuhuuuuu.... (almost) weekend!

2011-01-28T10:35:00.001+01:00

Asyikkk... beberapa jam menuju weekend :) dan minggu depan basically cmn 3 hari kerja XD..

hey weekend, longing for you so much :*

A-newly-wife note

2011-01-21T07:48:00.003+01:00

Dear husband,

I know you gonna read it since i link this blog to your email. *this is the only way for you to read my blog :p*

Hampir 4 bulan kita berumah-tangga (halah) dan sejujurnya, aku ngerasa belum jadi istri yang cukup baik untuk kamu.

Aku bukanlah tipikal istri yang bangun pagi dan menyiapkan sarapan. (kenyataanya, kamu yang selalu bangun lebih awal dan aku cuman menyiapkan sarapan roti ke kamu). Ngambekan aku juga masih banyak, bersih2 pun cmn kulakukan sabtu minggu (dgn catatan, aku sedang tidak malas).

Aku juga masih manja, bahkan kadang2 kelewatan. Dan kadang pun aku lupa, aku tidak hanya menikahi kamu, tapi juga keluarga kamu. Aku terbiasa hidup terpisah sejak 7 tahun yang lalu, mungkin aku juga sudah lupa, gimana rasanya aku punya seorang Ibu, karena sejak 7 tahun yg lalupun aku hidup terpisah dan tanpa ibu. Aku lupa, kamu tidak mengalami semua itu.

Aku juga akhir2 ini sering pulang malam. Mungkin kali ini yang berwenang lupa kalau aku sudah berkeluarga =D. Sedih rasanya, kalau lihat kamu sudah di rumah, sedangkan aku masih di kantor.

Walau kadang aku suka merindukan masa single-ku, karena bisa pulang malam tanpa merasa bersalah, tapi setelah melihat kamu dan bisa peluk-peluk kamu, rasanya beban kantor itu menghilang.

Aku berusaha sayang, selalu berusaha setiap hari untuk menjadi istri lebih baik. Berusaha untuk membuat kamu tidak menyesal untuk memilih aku jadi istrimu. :)

Aku sayang kamu. Sangat. Sekarang dan selamanya.

love,
your pretty wifey
Bulan Mendota Ferdian :D

I miss you, prameswari. As always

2011-01-20T08:51:00.002+01:00

i miss you girls.
So much, that i almost drops my tears.

I miss you dika, upik dan jihan. :* :* :*

and I pray, hope universe could once again unite us :)

kawinan jihan, ga bisa ketemu, dika juga ga bisa, kawinanku jugaa...

So, Upik, you're the last one. Mudah2an kita bisa ketemu berempat yah dikawinanmu :D.

Meanwhile, how are you, girls?

BA!

2011-01-19T12:12:00.001+01:00

badan pegel semua. *liat tanggal*
*postingan di tanggal segini isininya ngeluh semua*
*iya, once again, lagi deadline*
*hiks*

Percakapan di balik jendela

2011-01-09T02:39:00.002+01:00

I. Hujan

“Bukankah suara hujan itu menyenangkan?”

kataku sambil menambahkan gula ke teh melati yang baru saja kutuang dari tekonya.

Dahinya mengeriyit, bibirnya menyeruput kopi pahit kesukaanya.

” Hujan itu cuman membawa masalah, kamu tahu kan banjir badang yang menimpa wasior dan kemacetan yang timbul karena air-air tergenang di Jakarta,”

Aku tiba-tiba membayangkan ketika aku terjebak 3 jam di jalan, karena hujan tiada henti di Jakarta Jumat malam.

” Ya tapi, memang kamu tidak merasa damai seperti ini, kita duduk di ruang tamu kita yang hangat, sambil meminum kopi dan teh kesukaan kita, mengobrol, sambil mendengar suara hujan di luar. Ketika hujan berhenti, kamu sendiri mengakui udara nya sangat segar,”

Dia melirik aku sesaat, melihat derai hujan di luar jendela apartment kami, kemudian dia menyandarkan punggungnya ke sofa biru laut, dan matanya memejam menikmati suara hujan yang teratur.

Aku melihat damai di tubuhnya. Aku lalu mengikutinya.

Kami berlama-lama seperti itu, sampai kudengar dengkur halus darinya, aku terbangun.

Hujan di luar sudah berhenti, aku membuka jendela untuk memasukkan udara segar, kemudian aku menghela nafas pelan, dari jendela lantai 18 kami, bisa kulihat antrian panjang mobil di jalan protokol jakarta bawah sana dan suara klakson yang bersahutan menggantikan suara hujan yang damai.

II. Minggu Pagi

” Aku suka minggu pagi,”

” Kamu selalu membuka percakapan dengan apa yang kamu suka dan tidak kamu suka ya,” katanya seperti biasa dengan nada sinis.

Aku melirik dia sekilas, dia sedang asyik memegang remote untuk mengganti saluran TV.

” Enak bukan, hari minggu pagi adalah hari setelah kamu libur sehari di hari sabtu, tidak lelah karena pekerjaan, dan masih ada waktu sehari sebelum kamu kembali bekerja,” jelasku santai.

” Dan lagipula” lanjutku, sambil berdiri dan melirik pemadangan jalanan protokol dari jendela apartmentku, ” Jalanan hari minggu pagi selalu sepi, seolah-olah hanya minggu pagi lah penghuni Jakarta benar-benar istirahat,”

” Hari untuk keluarga,” tambahnya. Akhirnya dia memutuskan untuk menonton kartun anak kecil gempal yang sangat nakal tapi lucu itu.

Aku mengangguk setuju, kembali duduk disebelahnya.

” Asal hari minggu pagi tidak cepat-cepat berubah jadi senin pagi,” katanya setelah beberapa saat.

Tiba-tiba bayangang pekerjaanku menari-nari di kepalaku.

Ah, budak Jakarta.

III. Bahasa.

” Aku rasa, semua orang daerah yang pindah Jakarta, kehilangan identitasnya,”

”Maksudnya?” tanyamu, matamu tetap fokus melihat ke layar dan jarimu menari-nari di atas layar flat gadget termuktahir itu.

” Mereka semua berusaha keras menghilangkan dialek mereka, dan mulai berbicara dengan menggunakan lo-gue-lo-gue,”

“ Kenapa juga mereka harus begitu?” katamu tanpa menoleh sama sekali ke arahku.

” Yah kalau tidak, orang sepertimu akan menertawakan dialek mereka,” seruku cepat.

Tiba-tiba teringat dia yang selalu tertawa kalau aku mulai berbica lo-gw dengan teman-teman kerjaku.

Spontan kamu tertawa, wajahku semakin merengut.

“Benar juga... Eh, tapi kalau aku lagi di daerahmu, aku juga selalu jadi bulan-bulanan karena aku tak bisa bahasa daerahmu, sama aja kan.... ”

Benar juga yah, kataku dalam hati. Bibirku kembali tersenyum.

” Yah Jakarta itu ibu kota. Siapa yang menguasai Jakarta berarti menguasai Indonesia, kecuali,.. kalau Jakarta jadi pindah ke Jonggol, baru deh kita pakai bahasa Sunda,” lanjutmu mencoba beropini.

” Eh, tapi ga mungkin deh, semuanya pasti akan tetap pakai bahasa Jakarta,” tambahmu cepat.

Aku kembali merengut sambil berjalan berlalu menjauhimu.

9-1-11
Sudah lama tidak menulis, apalagi berprosa.
Mencoba langsung membuat 3 prosa dari ide-ide sederhana.
Semoga Anda suka. :)
photo credited by Michael Slonecker

Intermezzo

2010-12-23T05:23:00.002+01:00

So, it's only last for 3 days, even worst than before. T-T.

and it's almost Christmas weekend.. after rushed on deadlines and presentations for media plan 2011, finaly it's over. Well, at least for jan's deadline.

so, one week before the end of 2010, lot things happens during this 2010, and I thank God for this. Hoping for better and better during the coming years :)

so, am i gonna continue this #30daywritting project. I'd love too...

Day 3 - Fav Food

2010-12-10T14:39:00.004+01:00

fav food? actually i do have lot fav food ( im kinda a carnivora, i reckon :D) but most of all, McD french fries is on number 1.

Why french fries? Actually im a potato lover. i love all kind of food that made from potato, from mashed potato tp perkedel, you say it, i love it all. I even like it more better than rice, my staple food. I dont know why, it just comes that way.

Why McD? well, in my personnaly taste, McD has the best french fries compare than any junk foods, of course i love patat ( potato fries on dutch way ), but McD has a long history on my childhood. I used to go to McD every Sunday ( while McD just started invanded Jakarta) and maybe i just brain washed by my parents who always said to me, " The best french fries is the one that McD has". Well, maybe.

The other fact of me, potato is always my comfort food. I always get it when I upset down, and it could brings me the feeling safe and home that i really need to have.

And writting as well, it helps me a lot to heal my feelings tough. :)

Well, after writting this, i feel hungry. Where's my food?

Day 2 - Fav Animal

2010-12-09T14:57:00.003+01:00

So, here we go... day 2 with topic fav animal.

My fav animal? absolutely cats!

All my close friends has already know how much I attach with this cute little thinghy. Even my mom once told me since I was a baby, I always easily attracted to cats. And im fancy to all cats, whether they just street cats or sophisticated cats. I do love all of them. As matter of fact, my cat pets are always 'street' and usual cats. The different just they all have good looking fur.

The picture above is not my cat. I've stopped petting cats since 8 years ago, just before i went to NL. My last cat was looked like that cat above. and i loved her so much.

I do have lot stories about cats and i'd love to re-telling my experience with my last cat, Totol, to my husband.

Eventhough, i was not petting a cat anymore, my life is always surrended by cats. At NL, i have a neighbour who has big & orange cat who always tried to enter my room. Here in my room, there are lot of street cats who already close to me, to begging food of course :D. I named one of them Tempur. :D

I never naming my cats with fancy names. In fact, i created their name with font 'T'.

My first cat was Timun
My second cat was Terong
My third cat was Totol
My adopted cat ( and rejected by my hubby, LOL) was Tempur.

See ? I'm not joking. :D

Well ofcourse, i also love rabbits and i've ever pet them once, however, I think cats is far more cute than them. They are spoiled, i know, but their spoiled are cute, arent they :D ??

Well to tell you how much I love cat. I dont like Tom in Tom&Jerry. That movie makes fun with cat. Not all of them is stupid like Tom!!!! :D

They are cute and their cuteness could defeat everything. Who stands on cat eyes as in Puss in Boots ? Fiona didnt!

Day 1- Myself

2010-12-08T14:33:00.002+01:00

I was blogging on my favorite blogger, sepatumerah and it turned out that she just starting #30daydrawing projects, which make me think to have smiliar project, however since i cant draw well, im gonna doing it as #30daywritting project.

As you may remember, i used to have similiar project lastyear, that was 3 moths project and it was quite unsuccesful. I just can make it 1,5 months and i totally forgot at the rest. However, im gonna give myself a shot to start this project once more. And to make it differ than the past, i will use this rule (see above, i got from sepatumerah, all credit goes to her) as starts.

Day 1- myself.

So, I should write about myself. I am a 25 years old women and im just married 2 months ago to people that I love most, thanks God.

Being in the quarter-of-life and married is really a big leap for me. Alhamdullilah i do have a job, husband, family and friends arounds. I couldnt say myself a perfect, but i do happy with what i have.

I remember, once i've ever called my life perfect when i was 17 years old, i thought i git everything that i want, i have a loving parents, my mom just recorver (for a while, but i didnt know at that time) from her illnes, i do have a boyfriend and bunch of loving friends. I felt so perfect.

And after a while, it was falling apart, mom was sick again,boyfriend cheated behind me, my friend who knew that my bf was cheated just did nothing to me. And there was my history began.

No, i didnt regret at all. All those stories bring me here, a married women who tapped her stories from her iPad and loving husband who sit behind her. Once again, Alhamdullilah.

Dan vendor2 berjasa itu...

2010-10-25T14:53:00.005+02:00

hey semuaaa... akhirnya setelah keribetan sana-sini, kesempatan buat update lagi *bersih2debu* ...

Well, kali ini aku mau update soal vendor2 yang aku pakai. Pas jaman lagi nyari2 vendor, aku suka banget browsing dan kebantu banget dengan review2 yang ada di blog, nah ceritanya mau proyek balas budi nih, biar buat capeng2 (halaaahh... capeng!) yang lagi browsing2 punya bahan buat review yang terupdate. :D

let's begin!

1. WO = Mahakarya (CP : Fika)
Untuk WO, kebetulan aku cuman pake WO hanya untuk di saat acara, or dia jadi runner, time keeper, dan memastikan saat hari H semuanya berjalan tepat waktu. Karena kebetulan aku serba mepet, jam 8 akad nikah, jam 11 udah mulai resepsi. Nah, ternyata WO ini berguna banget deh... keluarga kan juga ikut sibuk, WO ini bener2 membantu aku kalau ada apa2. Kebetulan WO nya itu temen kantor aku sendiri,jadi lebih enak :)

2. Katering = Caterindo (CP= Bu Henny)
Kebetulan, kita berdua sepakat di suatu acara, makanan itu haruslah enak. dan kita percaya, kalau capengnya berdua sepakat itu enak, pasti tamu2nya akan juga ngerasa sama. Kita berdua udah TF dimana-mana, sampai akhirnya jatuh hati sama sate padang nya Caterindo. Rasa sate padangnya yang enyak itu, buat kita sepakat untuk pake Caterindo, apalagi bu Henny orangnya juga membantu banget.
Pas di acara, turns out pilihan kita sama sekali ga mengecewakan, semua orang suka dengan makanan2 yang ada. favoritnya salmon teriyaki sama hainan bebeknya, aku sendiri suka sama makarono schoetelnya.
As penganten, kita puas banget, dan cmn nyesel kenapa kita ga bs muter buat nikmatin makanannya :p hehehhe...

3. Dekor = Janur Kuning ( CP = Mas Bahar)
Janur kuning ini rekanan dari caterindo.
Kekurangannya dulu yah.... JK ini suka telat T-T! Pas technical meeting, dia satu2nya vendor yg telat lebih dari 1 jam, padahal ditunggu oleh semua orang. Dan ada beberapa miscommunication yang bikin saya sempat bete.
Tapi di hari H nya, segala kebetean terbayar sudah, dekornya janur kuning bagus banget... speechless abis. :)

4. Foto = Pasopati ( CP = er.. lupa)
Berhubung hasilnya belum diambil, belum ketahuan sih gimana hasilnya... mudah2an bagus... Cuman satu yg menganggu, Pasopati ini semangat sekali menyuruh saya dan deni bergaya, padahal masih banyak orang ngantri dan minta foto :( Pas kita udah kelaperan mau turun aja, dia masih semangat menyuruh saya dan deni bergaya lagi, padahal kita pengen makan dan ngobrol2 sama orang2 di bawah. Sampai akhirnya aku sendiri yg bilang, " Udah ya mbak.. udah capek.." :p

5. Pre-wedding photo = 9 art Photography ( CP : mas Fajar )
Ini adalah pilihan buat yang mau ekonomis tp hasilnya bagus-bagus! Kita pergi ke Bogor buat foto, pas puasa pula... dan hasilnya sama sekali ga mengecewakan.. totally recommended!

6. Musik = Revi's
Well actually, karena kita ada di atas, ga bisa menilai secara objektif, cuman banyak tamu2 yg merasa terhibur and it's more than enough :)

7. Baju : Filary dan Kebayakoe by Lulu
Both of them make a gorgeous kebaya. 1 more thing for Kebayakoe, sempet buat deg2an gara2 ukuran bustier yang salah di H-3. Untung aja masih bisa dibenerin.

8. Gedung : Antam
Suka sama gedung ini karena posisinya strategis dengan parkir yang luas. Alhamdullilah selama acara aku ga ujan, walau tetep, macet dimana-mana. Cuman, ada beberapa pengalaman ga enak sama pengurus gedung Antam, masa pas acara dia minta-minta souvenir aku, udah dikasih, eh ada orang lain lagi yg minta2 lagi, mina 3 pula, bilangnya orang gedung. Yah, saya bayar gedung gitu loohh... bukannya gratisan juga make gedung. *sebel*

9. Souvenir : Airinda
Banyaaakkk bannget yg suka souvenir aku, bentuknya adalah clutch batik (ukuran 20 x 8). Yang buat ini sahabatku pas SMA, taunya juga gara2 pas datang ke kawinannya dia. Eh emang rejeki dia yah, ada temen kantor yg juga naksir sama souvenir ini dan ikutan bikin di dia :) Riiinn,... aku mau deh modalin buat buka cabang di Jakarta :D sini sini... :D

Well, itu dulu ah... buat aku dan Deni, paling penting tuh vendor dekor dan katering, makanya 2 itu yg bener2 jadi pusat perhatiaan kita sebelum kita nikah, dan alhamdulliha, overall, acara turn well dan we and family do feel happy.... :)

thank you buat semua yg sempat datang yah :)

*feel free to ask me no telp dari vendor2 di atas. :)

Day-9

2010-09-23T00:05:00.003+02:00

"Kok kamu sekarang jarang nulis-nulis lagi?" tanya Deni sambil lalu.

Memang, semua kesibukan saya, mulai dari pekerjaan sampai mengurusi printilan perkawinan, membuat saya tidak ada kesempatan bin malas untuk menulis. :) Toh, niat saya untuk menulis tidak pernah berhenti, kalau misalkan pikiran saya bisa menulis sendiri, sudah beberapa lembar tulisan yang saya buat :D

Berhubung saya tidak mau menulis vendor2 apa yang saya pakai buat persiapan, jadi saya menulis yang lain saja yah :D ( well, saya suka kok membaca blog2 orang yang menulis review vendor2 pernikahan, dan itu malah jadi referensi buat saya, ehmm... ntar aja deh habis hajatan saya tulis, kan review nya jadi lebih menyeluruh kan :D)

Sebenarnya saya mau mencatat gejolak (ciyeh, gejolak) hati saya dengan apa yang terjadi sebelum menikah, :D, disini saya buat point2 pembahasan agar bisa dibaca2 sebagai suatu memory manis lagi nanti :D

1. Marriage life

Saya sadar, after marriage life, bukanlah kisah yang langsung disimpulkan, and they live happy ever after and done seperti di akhir film2 Disney, justru disitu perjuangan baru mulai kan ( yah setidaknya kata orang2 sih :D) Tentu, mimpi saya ingin menghabiskan waktu selamanya bersama dia.

Tetapi, di persiapan menuju pernikahan, saya mendapat kabar bawah salah seorang saudara kami baru saja berpisah. Shock. Sangat malah. Apapun masalahnya, saya sadar bahwa hal ini bisa terjadi pada siapapun, kita tidak tau apa yang akan terjadi di depan sana, tapi tentu saja, kita selalu mendoakan yang terbaik.

Tidak, saya tidak takut, tapi saya seperti digiring kembali ke kenyataan dari segala euphoria persiapann pernikahan saya bahwa anything could be happens. Kami berdua harus selalu diingatkan bahwa hal ini bisa terjadi dan kami harus menjaga agar kami berdua selalu menguatkan dan mencintai satu sama lain.

2. True love

Salah seorang tante saya meninggal secara tiba2, ini juga merupakan big shock kepada saya. Dia dan suaminya terseret ombak ketika sedang berjalan2 di laut Bali. Tante saya tidak bisa diselamatkan, Oom saya, Alhamdulilah, masih bisa diselamatkan.Disini saya melihat cinta sejati diantara keduanya, saya melihat bagaimana Oom saya meskipun sedang kritis yang selalu dicari2 adalah istrinya dan aktifitas terakhir yang dilakukan oleh tante saya di Facebook adalah menupload foto suaminya.

Mereka sudah bersama hampir 30 tahun, tetapi cinta mereka masih kuat sampai di hari terakhirnya. Saya salut :)

3. Ayah

Ayah saya adalah orang yang santai dan tenang, tetapi saya liat 2 minggu terakhir mengurus persiapan pernikahann saya, dia terlihat sibuk ( mungkin karena saya pihak perempuan persiapan pernikahan saya lebih ribet dan lebih banyak menelan biaya :D ).

Saya tahu, Bapak saya sama seperti bapak2 yang lain yang ingin melihat anaknya menikah dengan pria terbaiknya.

4. Mama

Tapi diantara semuanya, mama saya adalah orang yang paling mengiginkan saya menikah, saya ingat mama sering membicarakan hari dimana saya menikah, saya ingat mama sudah membelikan perangkat tempat tidur ( tempat tidur, lemari dan meja rias dari kayu jati) mama saya selalu bilang, " Ini tempat tidur semuanya buat kamu kalau kamu sudah menikah, sekarang mama pinjam dulu buat dipakai yah "

Dan bagaimana ibu saya, selalu mendoakan agar saya mendapatkan Pria terbaik.

Dan Saya berharap dan saya yakin, pria pilihan saya tidak akan mengkhianati mimpi kedua orang tua saya :)

Merah Putih

2010-08-17T01:12:00.003+02:00

Selamat Hari kemerdekaan, Indonesia!

Kebetulan tanggal 17 agustus tahun ini sama dengan keadaan tanggal 17 agustus, 65 tahun yang lalu, yaitu di suasana bulan Ramadhan.

Well efeknya, pagi2 di twitter sudah bersahut2an teman2 yang mengucapkan selamat hari ulang tahun ke indonesia, yang buat saya kelihatan lucu saja :) Kenapa juga harus mengucapkan pas jam 12 malam, seperti ada seorang manusia yang ultah hari ini :) Terus kan juga ga ada orang yang akan mengucapkan terima kasih atas pemberiaan selamat itu kan :D

Saya berpikir, sebenarnya kita harus mengucapkan ucapan selamat itu kepada diri kita sendiri. Indonesia yang berulang tahun, kita yang merupakan bagiaan dari Indonesia itu sendiri dan saya rasa, kita lah juga yang berulang tahun merayakan kemerdekaan kita di hari ini.

Bicara soal merayakan hari kemederkaan, terlepas rutinitas setiap tahun ketika semua orang bertanya apakah kita sudah merdeka atau belum, saya mensyukuri kita tidak dijajah ( paling tidak dijajah secara fisik yah) oleh bangsa penjajah.

Dan setiap tahun, momen ini membuat saya berfikir, apa yang bisa saya berikan untuk negri ini. Mungkin tidak banyak hal yang mempunyai impact besar yang bisa kita lakukan untuk negri ini, tapi sebenernya banyak juga kan hal2 kecil yang bisa kita lakukan, mungkin sepele, tapi layak kita lakukan, seperti :

1. Jadi kakak asuh satu (atau beberapa ) anak yang tidak mampu.
Memang sih tindakan ini tidak langsung membuat kita menghapus kemiskinan, tapi
paling tidak ada beberapa adik yang bisa bersekolah karena bantuan kecil kita.
well, 25 ribu sebulan di jakarta mungkin bisa habis buat nonton biokosp sehari,
tapi kan 25 ribu buat mereka sudah sangat berarti buat mereka :)

2. Membeli produk fashion dalam negri or simply goes to Brighspot for buying your
designer clothes.
Ini sih gampang sekali kita lakukan kan :) Brighspot sendiri merupakan kumpulan
bazzar produk2 designer dalam negri yang pantas kita banggakan dengan harga sama
seperti mango dan zara :)
Mau produk designer indo yang lebih high-end? Jangan takut, kita punya Sabbatha,
Anteprima, butik Biasa, Rotteli yang merupakan produk indo tak kalah dari LV,
Longchamp dan teman2 nya.

3. Liburan Lokal
Memang sih sekarang beberapa tiket ke luar negri lebih mahal daripada liburan di
dalam negri. Tapi malu ga sih, sudah ke Paris tapi belum ke Bangka Belitung ( oh
itu saya loh, dan saya malu :p dan saya sangat ingin ke Bangka Belitung :D)
Gak usah jauh2 mimpi ke Pulau Ampat *mahal banget yah kesana :(* tapi jalan2 dulu
deh ke Karimun Jawa, Gunung Bromo, dll, masih banyak :)

Tiga itu dulu deh, ntar kalo banyak2 malah susah untuk diwujubkan, saya rasa 3 hal ini adalah hal yang paling umum dan paling mudah untuk mensyukuri dan merayakan hari kemerdekaanmu :)

Selamat merayakan kemerdekaan :D

A bride-to-be note

2010-08-04T17:32:00.002+02:00

Dear All,

So, how is it going? Gak terasa sudah melewatkan bulan Juli, my birthday month dan minggu depan sudah puasa lagi. Time flies.

InsyaAllah jadi puasa terakhir as single dan insyaAllah dalam waktu kira2 2 minggu, status wife sudah bisa dipakai :D

WIFE. this is very serious. Being 25, and almost a wife is really big issue for me. Not that im doubt of him. I'm more than sure over him, after everything that we've been through, i know we belong each others. But being a wife and responbility behind it, thats the one that im curious about. What kind of wife that im gonna be, not only in domestic matters, but everything.

Can i be a good wife, can i be worth for him to be stand for everthing that gonna happen in the future... can i being good for my extended family.

My fiance always teels me ' you can pleased everybody' after we finished our family meeting. People asked this and that, doing this and that, when i got my own choices and principals.

Aku ga mau acara jawa yang lelaki memecah telur dan kita membasuh kakinya, for me is nonsenses... meskipun artinya mungkin baik, tapi dari aku pertama kali ngeliat sampai sekarang kesannya selalu sama, buat aku itu seperti mengatakan 'Perempuan ada dan dinikahi adalah untuk melayani pria'. Meskipun (mungkin) bukan itu maksudnya :)

Malam bainai dan widodareni tidak diadakan, dan itu sih alasannya tak lain dan bukan adalah kasihan untuk anggota keluarga dan calon pengantin (saya!) kalo harus melek sepanjang malam padahal besok jam 5 sudah harus bangun untuk didandanin dan memulai acara. Kalau memang maksudnya agar keluarga datang dan menemani si calon pengantin wanita sih ga harus ada suatu acara berbeda, datang saja dan temani saya :)

Sunting padang ga mau tinggi2 atau berat2. Mungkin banyak yg menganggap sunting harus tinggi, dan banyak bilang dukun pengantinnya bisa bikin itu jadi terasa ga berat. Tapi aku ga mau yang tinggi, maunya simple aja, karena aku ingin tersenyum di acara kawinanku, bukan tersiksa karena beratnya sunting.

Prinsip saya, you paid a lot for your wedding and you can't enjoy your wedding day? No way... i have my own right to be happy and i deserves one :)

Setiap saya melihat teman2 saya yang menikah dan terlihat bahagia di panggung sana, saya selalu tersenyum bahagia, dan berjanji, apapun yang akan terjadi, saya harus bahagia dan tersenyumm, Maybe, it wont perfect, but happines is the one that i looking most, not perfectness.

Yang saya inginkan, panggung yang penuh senyum dan tawa, as simple as that. :)

What i'm feeling now?

2010-06-22T17:41:00.002+02:00

*inhale&exhale*

God please.. lancarkan dan mudahkan..

This is another blabla post.
This is another post that i use to encounter my stress.
This is another post that i feel lot things to tell, but i cant.

This is another post that im trying to feel my heart than to write my thoughts.

This is another post to stop my wonder minds that keep wondering..

This is another post that created to make me stop my almost-drops tears of worry.

This is another post to tell you that I only have 2 hands and cant create magic in one shake.

This is another post to make my worry minds know that i should make quick decision

This is another post to tell you that im responsible to my own life and my own plan

This is another post to tell me that i can, surely i can.

This is another post to make me smile.

This is another post to tell myself, that you can't please everyone, no one can.

This is another post to tell you, once again.. you need your girls, your besties, and hence again tell you that theyre so far away. Upik, Jihan, Dika, i just need you girls. need your hugs.

This is another post to tell you that you have fiance that always there for you.

This is another post to keep me insane.

and i hope i can tell you more than 'this is another post' post. but i think, this is clear enough :p

why?

2010-05-18T05:22:00.002+02:00

Why i can't updated my blog from office. Not about the technical problem, but it sounds that my mind and brain can't cooperated to create a post while i am on my office desk.

Well yeah, yesterday i back to office again. :) Not that i missed it, but it looks that my mind and brain when i was sick was wondering about office matters. I was still reply emails and answer the phones. Don't think i'm that workaholic, tough, however, apparenty, like i mentioned in my blog post earlier, im on deadline week.

Well, better back to office. I lost my focus and concentration. :( and this chickenpox scars lil bit annoys me.

May Updates

2010-05-14T12:30:00.002+02:00

So, hey how are you ? Mine is not goodd... i just got chickenpox :(

Iya, cacar air! Entah kenapa, dan ga tau dari siapa yg nularin, tiba2 aja.. ada kyk jerawat kecil di punggung sejak Jumat kemarin (7/5) dan hari Sabtu & minggu, yg kebetulan saya sedang ke Bandung untuk kawinan saudara sepupu saya, saya menggigil hebat dan panas badan naik-turun. Berhubung saya tahu dengan baik badan saya, agak heran ketika pulangnya hari minggu saya ke dokter dan bilang itu cuman radang tenggorokan biasa. Gak pernah hanya dengan radang tenggorokan, badan saya demam 3 hari, pasti ada penyakit yang lebih serius.

Eh ternyata, Senin pagi sehabis mandi, saya lihat banyak bintik2 merah di seluruh tubuh saya. Ya sudah, langsung ke RSIB dan dokter bilang memang kena cacar air, dan itu sebenarnya sudah hari ke 3 cacar air.... T-T.

Sekarang sudah hari ke-7 cacar air, bintik2nya sih sudah mulai kering. Banyak di muka lagi :( Tadi ke dokter kulit, buat menghindar dari hal-hal yang tidak diinginkan.

Sebenernya sakit cacar air ini, sakit benernya cuman di 5 hari pertama, itu bener-bener lemes, maunya tidur doank dan stamina bener-bener drop, apalagi ditambah cekat-cekit karena bintik-bintik itu tumbuh di tempat2 yang bikin ga nyenyak tidur, kayak di kepala dan di punggung. Pokoknya nyiksa. Apalagi kalo saya, ditambah radang tenggorokan dan batuk yg bener2 nyiksa, plus sakit gigi. Pokoknya staminanya bener-bener drop.

Kalau sekarang sih sudah lebih ke arah beban estetika. Kalo ngeliat cermin, rasanya pengen dicabutin satu-satu biar ilang :( padahal ga boleh, mana gatel lagi.

Komentar lelaki saya ? " Mending sekarang kan kenanya, dibanding nanti Oktober ?" Eh Nyebelliiinn.... :(

Apalagi sebenarnya bulan ini saya banyak kerjaan, dan minggu dimana saya sakit adalah minggu deadline. Ga mungkin juga saya nolak telfon-telfon yang dateng kan.

Weelll, enough about me.

Tadi baru selesai nonton Semifinalis Thomas Cup, and happy that our team can makes it! yipppiiee :)

Entah kenapa, dari dulu Thomas dan Uber cup adalah satu-satunya pertandingan yang saya selalu semangat ikutin. Rasanya gemes kalo liat team kita kalah dan deg2an di setiap pertandingannya. Dan suka terharu kalo kita menang, norak emang.

Dan saya jadi mikir.

Enak kali yah, kalau kita bisa menyikapi hidup kayak pertandingan Badminton, setiap kita serve, ada hasilnya menang atau kalah, kalau kita menang untuk selanjutnya kita yang serve, kalau kalah, pihak lawan yang serve, tapi itu berlalu dengan cepat, jadi kita ga punya waktu untuk sedih/senang atas serve2 kita, sampai nanti game point nya. Meskipun kita kalah, tercatat usaha yang kita lakukan, dan yang kita lakuin hanyalah memberikan yg terbaik untuk game selanjutnya, dan begitu seterusnya.

Saya ingin begitu, kalau ada masalah, kita hadapi saja, kita mainkan permainannya, kalau kita menang atau kalah ya sudah, kita lanjutkan lagi, mainkan babak baru, tidak ada keluh kesah, ataupun kesombongan. That's it. Berjalan. No drama.

Saya benci orang yang memperpanjang masalah, buat saya, kalau ada masalah, saya ga suka menduga-duga, (well, itu akan buat lebih depresi), saya lebih suka bertanya langsung, kalau saya salah, saya minta maaf, kalau memang dia yang salah, saya siap memaafkan dan meminta maaf. Karena buat saya, kesalahan itu pasti ga murni di satu pihak, pasti ada 2 pihak yang terlibat, sedikit apapun yang kita lakukan.

Saya benci drama. Saya sebal sama orang yang selalu menganggap dirinya benar atau selalu defense dengan dirinya. Saya juga sebal sama orang yang memanjangkan masalah. Dan saya sangat sebal dengan orang yang membicarakan hal-hal itu di belakang punggung orang lain.

Dan saya lebih sebal, kalau saya sudah ada di kedua pihak yang sedang berdrama dan saya harus menentukan memilih siapa.

Mungkin saya dianggap tidak berpendiriaan, karena akhirnya tidak memilih siapa-siapa atau dekat dengan kedua pihak, tapi buat saya, i dont care. Apa sih untungnya saya berada di satu pihak tertentu ?

Kok jadi curhat ? :) well, sudah lama ga menulis tiba-tiba saya jadi menulis hal seperti itu. Hm. I need distraction. Sepertinya cacar air ini salah satu distraction yang ada :D

Berharap senin sudah lebih baik wajahnya dan sudah bisa kembali ke kantor lagi :)

comfort 'thingies'

2010-04-07T17:21:00.002+02:00

here's my bad mood pills that i can pick anytime i need it most :

1. kentang McD
2. blogging
3. reading
4. coklaat.. beng2 :) dan pure chocolate
5. window shopping di mall all alone by myself.
6. shopping itself. hihihi...
7. buying books..
8. yoga
9. berjalan di halte busway jalur sudirman. i dont know why, but i prefer suasana halte busway di sudirman than kuningan. they are so hectic, but still in order.
10. cuddling with my fiancee :)

oh ya satu lagi, bau minyak kayu putih, that always reminds me with my mom.

what yours?

After Deadline Syndrom

2010-03-19T08:32:00.002+01:00

fuuuh, it's been almost 1 month not wrote anything, actually there few new things in my life that make my life not that boring.

A regular visit to gym, a new hair-cut, really new, because i cut it short, which i enjoy so much. and a new ring in my left finger. :)

and today, i wrote, because i just passed my April issue deadline, which i think this is a big relief before upcoming deadline is coming again. Well, that's my life now. couldn't complain anymore.

However, in the stuck time like this, i really need to planning a getaway, which i usually did to boost my spirit up. However, with the big plan this year, i should make a finance allocation well, and in fact, there is some wedding to attend this year, and few of them is outside Jakarta, which of course, i should plan holiday in their wedding dates, i think.

and as matter-of-fact, i read a lot these days. Every time i felt down, i drag myself to a bookstore and bought some books.

Last time, i bought " Mind Your Change" self-help book, this book actually talks general thing about how your positive mind could change the perspective in life, which also effect on your daily basis habits. Actually, it works. When you feels positive, whatever your doings and things will be gonna positive and will be a positive thing come into your life. And vice versa. A good book actually, i should finish them.

ok that's all, bye for now, how come i forgot that writing in my blog is some kind of stress relief to me ? i should doing this more often.

Valentine is coming...

2010-02-11T16:57:00.002+01:00

After 4,5 years together, im not that exited for valentine. well this year will be different though :D

Anyway... i want to share you one old song from Bread. My bf likes Bread so much, and because of him, i like Bread as well. Today, i browse to youtube and listen some of their songs. Our favorite is Bread-Make It With You ( well, ofcourse there is story behind this song ;). However, i also like this song :

BREAD - Baby I'm A Want You

yes baby, I'm A Want You and I'm A Need You :)

lumuanu. :)

got much things to do..

2010-02-03T10:09:00.002+01:00

that's the reason why i skipped so much time not blogging...
lot things to do, beside work, i also enjoying :
1. reading lot books, now im reading "Anne and The Green Gables". Suprisingly, this is a beautiful story. :)
2. watching manga a lot. hihi, i just finished watch " Super Cooking Boy, Liu Mao Tsing". :p
3. Since my bf just bought Ipod Touch, everytime im with him, im playing his new gadget :p
4. Just like usual, playing a lot with my social media, facebook and twitter...
5. and busy preparing.... err... *silent*

hehehe c you next post, bloggers :)

Say Hi!

2010-01-25T09:22:00.003+01:00

Hi!

well, i was rethinking about my mission to blogging daily. and it is so hard to do. However, i try to blogging more frequently again, just in order to keep my sane. :)

Actually, the deadlines trapped me into. After holiday, work is abundant, and i have to catch them all. :(

and Bangkok is so inspiring. I love how they treat their tourism. they can sell all their temples to tourist and organize them well. And when i was there, i keep thinking and arguing, why Indonesia can learn from them. We do have similar culture and behavior, we do have same thing to offers to foreign. Beautiful and unique scenery, temples, Asian culture, even Durian!

However, their places are cleaner than us. and they are prepared their tourist spot well. and also their public transportations are so much better than us. me like it so much :)

well, i wish i could do something for Indonesia's tourism, espesially Jakarta :)

neck pain.

2010-01-14T11:04:00.002+01:00

neck pain again :(

i remember i got neck pain 4 years again and it hurts so hell.

hope i dont get that again. :(

Just arrived from Bangkok :)

2010-01-11T15:30:00.005+01:00

Hey, just arrived from Bangkok :). update soon. Now i just finish unpack ( and i hate unpacking more than packing itself :( )

i do updates photos from my trip at Bangkok in my facebook :)

well, just want to share my itinery when i was there :

day 1
Arrived at bangkok at 8 PM, went to Hostel with bus ( Airport Express 2, direct to Khao San Road) and i stayed at Thai Cozy House, which close to Khaosan Road, the places where we can find cheap hotels, favorite for backpackers. and also the places where we can find night life in Bangkok. I love this place, definetly will stayed at this area again, when i have chance to return Bangkok.

day 2

Got to visiting temples which located near of Khaosan road. First, we went to Grand Palace and Emeral temple, sleeping budha temple, Wat Aron, we also take boat along Chaopraya river. In the night we went to Si Lom Bazaar Night, which near of Lumpini Park.

day 3

Now we head to Ancient City, it's kind of miniature park for Thai's culture. It's quite far from Bangkok, it's about 1,5 hours travelling. We took bus 511 from Khaosan Road, until the end of line and after that we took taxi, because we kinda lost. LOL :p.

Ancient City was amazing beautiful. It looks like Taman Mini in Indonesia, but it's very clean and quiet. and it's a huge park as well. Here we can find the miniature for important and valuable places in thailang such us Ayyuthaya, Grand Palace, the traditional house of Thai, Old Market City, floating market, and also the place (i forgot the name) but currently there are dispute between them and Kambodja about who's claim that place.

In ancient city, we took a tram tour to touring the park. After that, we used bicycle to went to restaurant. Entrance ticket is 350 bath, however tram tour and bicycle is free.

We rushed back to Bangkok, because tonight we gonna see Siam Niramit, a thai must see show. the entrance fee is 1500 bath, but, what we got is so awesome performance. Everything was awesome. The effects, the story, and also how they engage with audience. I feel like they thinks out of box performance, the whole theatre is their stage. they could come up for everywhere, doing anything that they like.

What you gonna say, when suddenly from the stage there are river with real water just to show that their life is so close with the river life? amazing beautifully.

After that, we went back to Khao San, and we had late dinner at Indian street food there. yummy.

Day 4

it was a shopping day!

Since it was saturday, we went to chatucak. it's very hot, crowded and HUGE! well, mostly the souvenir and clothes here is so cheap. I spent almost two hours (not enough, btw) to search souvenirs and clothings for myself and my fear friends.

then, we went to MBK, and bought some Durian chips. Well, it looks like ITC here, so i dont buy any fashion thingies. Moved for there, we got to Hard Rock Bangkok, to buy a t-shirt for myself. (well, this is something that i have to do, when i am travelling around the world). Then, we went to Siam Paragon. Well, nothing special, to be honest. :)

Back to hotel, now it's time to try the famous Thai Massage. It costs 200 bath for 1 hour and i like how they massage, not use any oil and not hard. it's a perfect thing to do after you go shopping all day!

day 5
Last day at Bangkok!

We checked out from our Hotel, and i insisted to see a park in Bangkok. We went to Lumphini Park, but when i see it from above (from BTS,sky line metro) we havent interested to explore more, istead we went to Chaopraye river (again) and take a touris boat (it's about 25 bath).

Accidently we found a secret and small but cozy park around Khaosan (it near Phra Atrit Piet), after that we back to Khao San for final shopping lap. LOL :p and took a bus back to Airport.

Overall, it was a nice trip and since we uses " Go Local " trip, the costs is relatively cheap. the cost for food in Bangkok is cheap, find it some cheaper than Jakarta. The cost for public transport is also cheap. The bust only cos 15 - 24 bath, the BTS and sky line is costs 25 -30 bath.

Here my approx cost.

Flight : Rp. 2.200.000.- return. ( could be more cheaper if you book earlier)
Hotel : 650 Bath per day. ( ac , toilet inside, breakfast included)
transport : 150 bath per day kali ya ? :D

attraction :
grand palace : 350 bath
other temples : 50 bath
Ancient City : 350 bath
Siam Niramit : 1500 bath
Food : well, it's variated, if you buy them at food street, pad thai ( fried noodle) is about 40 bath, but if you bought it at Food Court it costs 110 bath. still, it's so much cheaper than Jakarta :)

well, this for now :) hope you enjoy my story. i love to going back again. there are lot of places that i want to visit at Thailand. I also havent visit the beaches, well, i skipped Pattaya, because everyone not recommended it, everyone says Bali is so much better, so for beach trip this year, maybe i'll visit Bali, it's been a while not visit Bali tough :D

bye bye :)

Maju Jangan Kuyu

2010-01-05T15:38:00.002+01:00

Dearest readers,

I suppousely packing for tommorow's vacation, but instead, i open to my past years archive and suddenly my eyes going tearly when i read this, a poem for my dad when i was 18. When i was decided to study aboard, when i was braved enough to leaves all of my comfortable zone and leave Indonesia.

When i read this poem once again, i think this poem is still well appllied on my condition today ( 7 years after). This poem is touching. :) My dad wrote this poem at my new IBM laptop that he gave to me as my birthday present. i love you Dad :)

MAJU JANGAN KUYU

( Prosa untuk Bulan anak saya yang berulang tahun ke 18)

Waktu yang berputar tak ingkar, lalu kau sudah berada diujung antrian
Sepertinya aku ingin tangkis dengan menutup mataku, kau sudah berlari
Kupegang tangan kasihku, makin kuat tali rintang, teriakmu menerjang
Kuraba lagi hatiku, ada kata disana, waktu untuk berlari tiba, biarkan kedepan

Anak panah ini,sekarang melesat seperti janji allah
Arahnya beda, tujuannya sama
Terjalnya sama, benturannya sama,
Nyanyinya beda, tawanya beda, karena kekuatan hati tidak bisa sama

Maju , jalan terus kedepan, bisa pelan ,sampailah ke ujung
Putaran waktu tidak akan ingkar
Kupegang lagi tangan kasihku, kuatkan tali ini jangan terputus
Lemparkan tali kedepan,untuk menjalin jembatan
Lewati antrian, karena engkau memang harus berlari.

Jakarta, 24 Juli 2003

( After so long time I have not written, even single word for my lover )

How lucky you are...

2010-01-04T14:55:00.002+01:00

I wonder, how many times you ever thought that other grass is grenner than ours. I thought, everyone has ever think something like that, because nobody's perfect eventhough how lucky she/he is.

In order to cheer myself up, i am gonna make my " Lucky List ". because i dont need any sadness ruin my newyear spirits. I am a great person, and i always am.

thus, here is it my " Lucky Lists "

- I'm so lucky to have my boyfriend who very kind, loving and caring me on every situation

- I'm so lucky to have superb Daddy who loving me unconditionally. Who always understand with anything that i decided and never ever trying to push me.

- I'm so lucky to have caring bestfriends. Which never asking too much neither advices me too much about any situation that i had, but more than cheering and giving their opinion while i asks. which something good for me.

- I'm so lucky to have Dika, which offering withoug conditions to accompany me while my beibeb was flying back to indonesia.

- I'm so lucky to have family where i can ride back everytime i need it.

- I'm so lucky to have job that challenges me every month and the possibility to meet new people with their knowledge. Eventhough sometimes i feel bored and stress with all the tight deadlines.

- I'm so lucky, i am able to pay my holiday with my own money and realizes my dream to visit other countries outside Indonesia.

- I'm so lucky, to have a room at Mampang, with all nice housemates with also cheap internet connection.

- I'm so lucky to have two netbooks, one at office and one at home. So lucky that my IBM is still keep intact and working eventhough i've been using it almost 7 years.

- I'm so happy that my job now gives me lot of goodie bags with also offers any vouchers which make me able to buy and use branded apparel.

- I'm so lucky to be able study at Amsterdam, which offers me lot of benefit and oppurtinities and also life lessons...

- Above at all, im so lucky to have you, my blog, and you, my blog readers and also my bestfriends who read this blog. because of you, i will always keep my head up.

keep your spirit up and keep your hope to Allah. The best yet to come :)

Lenka - The Show

2010-01-02T07:04:00.002+01:00

well, currently i'm in love with this song and also trying to memorize the lyrics (which is something rare thing to do for me). First time i listen this in Ugly Betty's promo at Star Movies. And i just like to listen its catchy lyrics with typical katty perry tunes.

well, while you listen the whole song, it's just like what ive been through these times. (dont you think im almost get my first life-quarter crisis ?) :p.

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I don't know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

Slow it down
Make it stop
Or else my heart is going to pop
'Cause it's too much
Yeah, it's a lot
To be something I'm not

I'm a fool
Out of love
'Cause I just can't get enough

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I don't know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

I'm just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out
It's bringing me down I know
I've got to let it go
And just enjoy the show

The sun is hot
In the sky
Just like a giant spotlight
The people follow the sign
And synchronize in time
It's a joke
Nobody knows
They've got a ticket to that show
Yeah

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I dont know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

I'm just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out
It's bringing me down I know
I've got to let it go
And just enjoy the show

Just enjoy the show

I'm just a little bit caught in the middle
Life is a maze and love is a riddle
I dont know where to go I can't do it alone I've tried
And I don't know why

I'm just a little girl lost in the moment
I'm so scared but I don't show it
I can't figure it out
It's bringing me down I know
I've got to let it go
And just enjoy the show

dum de dum
dudum de dum

Just enjoy the show

dum de dum
dudum de dum

Just enjoy the show

I want my money back
I want my money back
I want my money back
Just enjoy the show

I want my money back
I want my money back
I want my money back
Just enjoy the show

Happy New Year!

2010-01-01T07:08:00.002+01:00

here is it, i will tell you my new year eve story which.. almost same with last year. hihi :p
So, yesterday, my office mate bring us a 8 litre of ice cream to office in the morning. Thus, we eat them heartly. because actually, there are nothing to do for us, we spent doing nothing at office only chat with each other and enjoying ice cream. after that, i was having lunch at Mbah Jingkrak, our favorite super-spicy javannese restaurant at Setiabudi. then, we back home early.

After that mas berly and beibeb picked me up at kos, then we went to Teraskota. We tried kefir yogurt there. The tastes was nice but the service was slow. however, the price is cheap. only 20,000 for one waffle plus yogurt. Still hungry, we went to pizza restaurant there. pretty nice. However, this our first time to Teraskota, BSD and it was nice place to go (for you who lives around there, of course :p)

Me and beibeb back to Pamulang and watching Spiderman 3 to wait the 00.00, the milestone for 2010.

And today is our first day at 2010! and i just got my first indomie :p

happy new year everyone and wish a happy year ahead. :D

well, for resolution, i think it's gonna keep better and better than last year. Since, i feel there were less major changes on me between this year, so i keeping it better and better :) amien.

Last day of 2009

2009-12-31T13:40:00.000+01:00

Hi..

Happy last day of 2009. Now, I have dinner at Teraskota,bsd with my beibeb and mas berly. :)

Happy new year everyone and happy holiday!

Posting in the middle of night

2009-12-29T21:36:00.004+01:00

hi my bloggers,

just when i promised not to 'bolos' to posting, i just skipped about almost 3 days!

well, on friday till sunday, i accompanied my friend, dika, who gonna leaving to Ternate soon because her husband is there and she has able to mutated herself to move there. Last weekend, she had meeting at Hotel Santika and since her room is for two person, but only her that stay there, she invited me to stay at hotel also. So on Friday, i stayed there :D

well, that was like a fresh air for me, escaping from my room in Mampang and Pamulang to stay in different places but still in Jakarta. I enjoyed watching Pay Tv there (hihi) and catch up my old serial tv series ( heroes, desperate housevives, ugly betty ) which i already skipped so long :p

on Sat ( my friend is still training) i went to Pasific Place, that was first time since Jakarta Fashion Week :p) we had lunch at Pancious Pancake (still one of favorite restaurant at PP) and my bf bought Ipod Touch there, wow, im so envy his Ipod Touch, but actually im not big fans of Ipod ( i even barely uses my ipod shuffle).

On sunday, i went to Istana Negara dan Istana Merdeka with Sahabat Museum community together with almmost 1000 people who also went there. The trip actually is short but the abundant of people whose join this trip makes slowing the whole event.

First, we met at Duta Merlin for registration (well, imagine this, almost 1000 people should be registered), then, we listen explanations about Hotel Des Indies which once was located at Duta Merlin, then we walked to Seketariat Negara next to Duta Merlin and from there, we got to Instana Negara with shuttle bus.

Arrived at Istana, we converge at a hall, and the protocol give us some brief presntation about those two palaces. After that, we started touring. Only one Istana that we can enter, which is Freedom Palace since State Palace is still used as a resident for SBY.

At Freedom Palace we saw the metting hall for president and first wife to greet his/her guests which also decorated with lot of art thingies from entire Indonesia. Actually, the palace was not as big as i imagine. As matter of fact, the size just like my grandmas house back then. :D

After touring, we back to Duta Merlin and got Ragusa Ice cream. Overall was nice, but i think Sahabat Museum should limiting their guests. Let's say only 300 people a day and they could make this event as a regular, so people can choose their day not all people joint in the same day. too crowded. Well, im lucky my number of registration is still in 100s, so im on the firsts group whose experiences the tour, but i just can't imagine people whose on 800s. How long they should waited ? Even, when i was about home, i still saw people queueing in the fron of Seketaris Negara, not enter just yet. wow.

I also went to Museum Nasional again, to accompany my beibeb who havent visit that museum. This time, the museum is full with chilidren since this holiday time for them. From that, we back to hotel to got dinner with dika.

And monday, we back to work agaaiin.... huuuh.. but the traffic is quiet. I even can sit on the bus transjakarta. yey :D

and i can't wait to my holiday next week. :D

:*

PS: oh, about why i posting on middle of night. i just wake after a hard stomatchache last night. :(. It was very hard, i was wanted to taken 2 pills paracetamol, but i able to managed myself to not get that extra paracetamol #deritawanita

Merry Xmas!

2009-12-25T16:51:00.000+01:00

for all of my friends who celebrates it... Merry Xmas!

:*

i think it would be nice if i were a man

2009-12-24T17:18:00.002+01:00

so it's okay to be less-sensitive, acceptable if you were have messy room/desk, it's okay to go alone everywhere.

and no problem if you were angry and you were not doing anything to make it up. you let us to make it up first to you because you know us can't stand yours angry. They called it simply man's ego.

reward for my a-month daily blogging

2009-12-23T18:45:00.003+01:00

bye boring layout from blogger.

Thanks for Dita, www.shabbyblogs.com offers lot of backgrounds that make your blog preetier :D

On holliday mood

2009-12-23T16:55:00.003+01:00

wooww... im so wake up as if i had day-off tommorow. Not im not. As matter of fact, tommorow i will get morning marketing meeting at office. Huh.

Anyway, today is pay day :D .. it's simply make me happy. hihi.

and mark this, today is also a month after i decided to drag myself blogging everyday. :D I failed two days though! :(

next time better. still get 2 months to go :D

Planet 51

2009-12-22T17:22:00.001+01:00

is really a boring movie. espesially, if you have already watching the awesome Avatar movie before. :p

The greatest mom in the world!

2009-12-21T15:56:00.000+01:00

I browsed through my facebook and suddenly realised that tommorow is Mothers Day in Indonesia.

It's been 6 years without my Mom. Lot things happened, sometimes I still feel envy when someone talks about her mother, eventhough its slightly better than before.

Look mom, I know you gonna proud with what I become today. Because I know you always proud to anything that I going through.

I miss you mom. It still feels not okay without you around. There are still some things that I only want to share only with you, like we always did..

But mom, don't you worry, besides any flaws, I'm still okay and tough. I'm still able to face world everyday.

Thanks for praying for a good man to accompany me. InsyAllah I already got one and this, I'm sure, its because your pray.

Mom, I love you, I always do..

Thank you for being a greatest mom for me.

ouch...

2009-12-20T16:36:00.006+01:00

Hey bloggers,

Well yes, i broke my own promise! it's been 2 days im not blogging (as if there's someone care about it :p) The reasons ? well, just say... im bit hangover here. :p

What's going oonn?

well, on friday i got 2 parties attended. First is my bro's kinda-birthday-party at home. Dewi was cooking 'nasi kebuli'. Second is my junior high school after party (of his wedding) which the food wass... errrr amazing and abundant! Dharmawangsa hotel really have a good foodd!

and my friends party is .. so awesome. Well, just think that i too much watched Gossip Girl tv series. But it's kinda me thinks it's like one, though. But is's so nice to have a party that only your friends (not your parents' collegas) that come to your party.

And I also met lot of my high school friends there , and i was using my white gown (and i was drinking chocolate martini, how come im not thinking that it's so GG typical party?). and their special entertain guest is (hold your breath) "Maliq d'essential". It was so awesome watching Maliq d'essential while youre sitting in the front-row sofa. :D

overall, it was very nice :D

and as yesterday, i was watching Avatar. So great. so recommended.

ok, bye bye.. tommorow back to work again and no, at 24 dec im not getting day off. *crying*

Sang pemimpi

2009-12-17T16:43:00.000+01:00

wake up - going to slipi - lunch at office - going to kedoya - back office - come home early - going to pejaten - eating sour sally - watching Sang Pemimpi (a good one, review later) - eating bubur ayam - typing blog via her phone.
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Tombak's Birthday

2009-12-16T16:24:00.002+01:00

Happy birthday Tombak Matahari!, my bro :)

welcome to big three-zero and may God bless you :)

busy

2009-12-15T16:02:00.000+01:00

busy. deadline. bored.

i miss you prameswari

2009-12-14T15:57:00.003+01:00

hi all,

I browsed through one of album of my very bestfriend, Jihan. the album titled 'prameswari', which consits of me, dika, upik and Jihan.

That photo album brings my memory back, the half of them is when we had our first trip togehter (which only four of us) to Barcelona. I still remember, how happy we are and also the silly fights that we had there. Just because each of us, really know and understand each habits, we try tolerate, eventhough it was so hard :).

Jihan who so mother-ly, The organized and love-to-clean Upik, the dilligent and it-is-so-hard-and-complicated Dika and me (oh, describe me, girls!). After 6 years, two of us has already married. three of us (including me) find her soulmate in Amsterdam and also in the same year (about 4 years ago, right girls ?

And eventhough we are so apart half-world (literally), just remember we still have each others. And we still have facebook and SMS ;)...

I love you girls. Prameswari.

Xmas is in the malls!

2009-12-13T16:45:00.001+01:00

Dearest people,...

As planned, today I went to brightspot market, plaza indonesia. For you who doesn't know (my beibeb didn't know until I dragged him to got there), brightspot market is kind of bazaar of young talented indonesia designer. Some of them have their own store, some of them selling it online.

Some names that also participated here are ni.ki.co, geulis, cottontink, petite cupcakes, happy-go-lucky. I bought purple shawl from cottontink there. I love it.

What I like to going to malls these days because only on malls we can get the most xmas feelings in indonesia. Despite what religion am I, I love xmas. I think xmas is the universal celebration. The day for everyone that believe in peace as the sweetest thing in the world. Only in Christmas, war can stop. How great is it ?

Plaza indonesia also makes house that made by original ginger cake that created by the hyatt chef to celebrate xmas. Wow! it's like in fairy world :)

The malls decorate by red and green, Christmas choir, big Christmas tree and Christmas sale everywhere. Why wouldn't we love christmast ? I do :)

Bye readers :)
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Cempedak

2009-12-12T08:31:00.002+01:00

Happy weekend!

This morning, i went to Pamulang Permai and bought Rawon for breakfast with my bro and his wife. There was fruit seller there, and Dewi, my sis-in-law bought Cempedak.

Since she was original from south borneo, this fruit is quiet famous there. I, myself, can't find any difference with Nangka, but the smell itself is more like Durian. Strong.

We can eat Cempedak fresh and also with some cooking. Dewi make fried Cempedak and we eat it in the middle of rain. so yummy. We also can eat the seed as well which tastes like peanut.

And we also can eat the skin of cempedak fruit. This originally is Banjar's traditional food called Mandai. First we have to put it into water with salt and wait until the skin is tender. And then we 'tumis' it. it's pretty simple, but i like the after taste that they make :)

happy weekend! maybe tommorow ill visit Brigspot Market to see what they have, but i dont think that this is a right moment, since i want to save for my holiday :p.

bye bye.

Manga : The One I Love

2009-12-11T16:45:00.003+01:00

hey, happy friday!

Well, my friday is not that happy, but skip that. we not gonna talk about that in this post.

Do you have your favorite manga author ? I do have. CLAMP is my manga favorite group author and maybe favorite from other manga-lover in my age. Cardcaptor Sakura, Magic Knight Rayearth, Chobits, x/1999 is few of their mangas.

What i like for them is, none of their story that have 'bad' enemy. Every of their enemy have 'one mission' which have something good on it, but because of situation, they looks bad, but actually is not. Thus, there is no bad people on CLAMP. But how they tells and also the images are very nice and sweet. and also details.

Yesterday, i went to second-hand book store at Pasar festival, and found one of CLAMP manga : The One I Love (published on 1995). Before, i already saw the Dutch version at ABC, Amsterdam, but, since it's on Dutch, i decided not to buy it (and it costs € 15 as well).

The comic is really beautiful. This kind of different with other comic. They consits of 12 different stories with 2 pages of their own article that explains the manga. And it's all about love. According to wikipedia, it's consider as CLAMP's most autobiographical story ( or love story, to be exact).

Here i cited from Wikipedia about the story inside the manga :

Different: "I wanted to try something a little different, to become a little different." A girl asks to meet her boyfriend in the park after they've had a fight. She wants to apologize, but doesn't know what to say, so she wears a kimono instead. When she meets her boyfriend, she finds that he is dressed up too; he had the same idea as she did.

Cute: "I think 'cute' is such a vague word." A girl reflects on the word "cute" with her boyfriend. She can't visualize "cute," so she doesn't understand why it makes her happy when he says that she is cute.

I Miss You: "When I can't see you, I don't know if something's happened to you." A girl has doubts about staying with her boyfriend, who has a very demanding work schedule. In the end, he skips work to visit her and she decides that their relationship will work out.

A Younger Man: "It's not like I fell in love with you because of your age." A young woman working at a bakery reflects on a past unsuccessful relationship with a younger man. In the end, a younger bakery worker asks her on a date, and she is hopeful that their relationship will work out.

Suddenly: "Love always happens suddenly." A girl working in a design company thinks about her past relationships, and one of her coworkers, whom she doesn't get along with. When a design job goes wrong and that coworker offers his ideas, she realizes that she is in love with him.

Together: "I just wanted to have something in common with that boy." A girl reflects on her childhood sweetheart, who introduced her to playing the harmonica.

Pretty: "Today's the day I wanted to look my prettiest!" A girl panics as she decides what to wear to meet her boyfriend. When she is late to meet him, she realizes that her boyfriend always thinks she is pretty, no matter what she wears.

Insecure: "I love him, but maybe he doesn't feel the same way." A girl has a dream about being dumped by her boyfriend, and she is worried that it is a premonition.

Courage: "I found the courage because today was a special day." A girl confesses her love on Valentine's Day.

Normal: "How do all those couples cross the threshold from 'love' into marriage." A young woman has doubts about getting married to her boyfriend. In the end, she realizes that even if they marry, nothing will change between them.

Apart: "When we're this far apart, we can't even hold hands." A young woman wonders if her long-distance boyfriend is being faithful. In the end, she finds out that he is very dedicated to her.

Marriage: "I feel like I'm turning into someone completely different." A young woman about to be married is nervous about her future. She is worried that she might change, but her husband reassures her that they will change together.

I really enjoy the whole story!

source
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_One_I_Love_(manga)

thursday.

2009-12-10T16:59:00.001+01:00

getting better.busy at office.eating sushi. another night.

time to sleep now :)

Call in sick

2009-12-09T16:02:00.002+01:00

Hey...

Today's is really boring. I spent my day only laying in the bed, call in sick. This diarheaa really kills me, but now is getting better, eventhough, the frequent of going to wc (sorry) is still quite lot, but better than yesterday.

Basically, there is no interesting thing that happening today. Expect, i want to share 2 good news from friend of mine. One is finnaly getting pregnant (after 2 years:) ) and one is finnaly reunite with her husband which residence outside javannese. However the bad news is,both of them is planning to move away from me :(.

You know you're getting older, when you find you have less good friends. but top of that, i'm happy to both of you. good luck!

:*

Buka Semangat Baru

2009-12-08T14:05:00.003+01:00

Dearest peoplee,...

Today, i went to JMC Hospital, this diarrhea kills me, then i decided to went to doctor in the hospital near my place. Luckily, my insurance is pay everything. I can just come and go home with some drugs without paying any cash. and i also happy, there is no infection so i dont need any antibiotics.

At home, i open to Raditya Dika website, and found this link that he's recommended www.bukasemangatbaru.com. Apparently, this is the blogs to support the new campaign of Coca Cola. This also linked to their new ad / jungle. Open happines, is the umbrella of international 2009 campaign of Cocacola.

I like how they translated 'Open Happiness' to Indonesia, buka semanagat baru. Not fully translated, but they still brings some spirits that they have on Open Happiness. Every country also make their own version. Just try to search it on youtube. They do have plenty!

What i noticed is, on Open Happiness original version, the three people that presented on tv ad is origin from differences races that also pictures how differences races they have on US, but they still united. On Indonesian version, you can't see that "Differences but United". What a pitty.

This also happen on Dove Campaign. If you look Dove ads outside Indonesia, you will see how Dove really brings their Sisterhood spirtis with differences races but united, fat or slim, black or white, straight hair or frizzy hair, all are pictures on their campaign and brings the spirit "everyone is beauty".

Here, they are not brave enough to bring that messages. You still see, the major is a girl with white fair skin with long straigh hair. Well the differences only on the lenght of their hair but not their skins nor races.

My question is always same, "Why they don't brave to bring that messages?" I know, all Indonesian people is really willing to be that kind of person. But, hey, how's about the messages of " Every of You is beautiful uniquely? "

How's about that ?

Meanwhile, please listen the jingle ad / music video of Buka Semangat Baru. I kinda like it though :p

This couple is (still) sick!

2009-12-07T14:43:00.000+01:00

Dearest one,

I don't know why these two week, me and beibeb got sick easily. After getting cold last week, today, I got diarrhea, one of my always-sick. Apparently, today's diarrhea not only caught on me. My brother and my sister in law also got diarrhea as well. That makes my sister-in-law become a detective to find who's the culprit that make all of us sick. :p

Uh, I feeling not well. Better sleep early.

Bye readers!
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Baby's Party

2009-12-06T15:38:00.003+01:00

Today, i was invited to my boss daughter's birthday party, Kendra. Thus, me with one of my officemates went there.

It was long time im not in touch with so many babies and kids in one place. It was like heavenn :). Kids chatting, playing and fighting together. They looks so happy with all the presents and goodie bags that they got from the party. they are so naive and cute. how happy and simple they pictures life. I wish adult can remember how they was pictures the beautiful and easy life as they were kids.

After that, i spend my 'me time' (well, my beibeb couldn't accompany me, since he is still get toothache) at Citos. I also bought bought 'Nowhere to Go', A CD from Endah n Rhesa (IDR 25.000) and 'Indonesian Sweet Jazzy' (IDR 30.000) A compilation from old Indonesian songs with a touch of swing jazz. Both of them is good.

So, today is perfect. Thanks Allah. :)

Lazy saturday..

2009-12-05T15:42:00.002+01:00

I spent almost my day in my pamulang's house. Only laying in the front of tv watching Opera van Java. My baby got tootache so he can't eat anything. Poor baby :)

Heaven, after these rough days, what I need are laying and doing nothing :p

Bye, nighty readers.

Please Pray for My Aunty : Ratna Indraswari Ibrahim

2009-12-04T15:21:00.003+01:00

Have you heard an author named Ratna Indraswari Ibrahim ? On 80's and 90's she was so popular. Her stories has been published to many newspapers (ex : Kompas) and magazines.

Yes, that great women is my aunty from my dad. Ratna Indraswari Ibrahim. She has been disable since 10 years old, but i always envy her spirtis to keep creative with her spesial skills on writting.

Today, i got sad news from my Dad. He tells that my aunty is got stroke and still on the hospital. Please, my dear readers, pray for her and her healthy and quick recorvery. Amen.

I googled a bit and got my aunty's biography on one of website. I think this pretty interesting since he's also talking about the parents of my aunty, which is my grandpa and grandma. My dad is very rare talking about them, so this article make me understand bit about my dad's family.

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Link from http://indonesianow.blogspot.com/2007/06/ratna-indraswari-ibrahim.html

RATNA INDRASWARI IBRAHIM
SEE THE PERSON, NOT THE PROBLEM:
CONSIDER THE IDEAS, NOT THE MYTHS
© Duncan Graham 2007

She's one of Indonesia's most prolific short-story writers with more than 300 published. Plus novels, poetry and a basket full of articles. For these she's collected several awards. When she's not writing she's pushing social and cultural causes.

All this makes Ratna Indraswari Ibrahim worthy of respect; add to this her work practices.

For Ratna is severely crippled and cannot write or use a keyboard; all her stories have to be dictated and transcribed. Duncan Graham met the determined author at her home in Malang, East Java.

While the interviews for this story were being conducted Malang was gripped by a bizarre family tragedy. A young Mum who seems to have suffered emotional, domestic and financial problems – and was clearly mentally unbalanced -poisoned her four children, then herself.

Adding to the tragedy is that the mother (ironically named Mercy) used her handphone to video the deaths of her youngsters. She then arranged their bodies neatly on the bed before committing suicide. The local media published the pictures.

Don't bother ploughing through newspaper archives for more details – just wait for Ratna's next story.

"I'm thinking about it," she said. "The seed is definitely there. I have to get my ideas from newspapers and books. It's not easy getting around."

But she does, and has already visited Australia, the US (where she had leadership training), and China. In some places mobility has been simpler than in her homeland. In many Western nations pavements should be smooth and level, and public buildings must have wheelchair-access ramps and wide doors for the physically challenged.

Ratna has been campaigning for similar laws in Indonesia for decades. Back in 1994 she was given a national award by then President Soeharto for her agitation on behalf of the disabled – arguing that the public should see the person, not the problem, and that all citizens have the right to use public space.

But architects and town planners largely remain unconcerned with the plight of Indonesia's handicapped; the legislation is still not in place, ensuring the disabled usually stay indoors.

"I should start a political party," a frustrated Ratna grumbled as an aside. "There are ten million disabled voters in Indonesia. Maybe then the lawmakers would start to pay attention."

It's not just the indifference of politicians that keeps the crippled out of sight. To have a child who is labeled abnormal is often regarded as a curse, proof to the superstitious that the family has committed some grave sin.

Fortunately for Ratna her parents - who came from Padang in West Sumatra, a region with a reputation for practising heavy-duty Islam - were open minded, progressive and liberal,

"I was born in 1949 and had a good and happy childhood," she said. "I could swim and loved playing outside. I was considered to be a tomboy."

When she was about ten tragedy struck. At first it was thought she'd contracted poliomyelitis, though later diagnoses indicate it may be rickets, a disease that softens bones. Whatever the cause, she lost the use of her limbs and has had to rely on others for her daily needs.

"For the first five years or so I was very angry – particularly with God because everyone else in the family was so fit," she said. "All my five sisters were beautiful. However I think I've only written one story expressing that anger – and I can't remember the title.

"My mother, Siti Bidasari, died only five years ago. She lived long enough to see and enjoy her daughter's success. I'm not trying to be immodest, but she was very proud of me.

"When I was young she told me: 'You cannot walk, but you can write. Not everyone who walks can write. You will do much more than other people because God has given you brains to use.'

"It's true that I may not have become a writer if I hadn't been disabled. I love plants and all living things, and I wanted to become a farmer.

"God made me like this so I could be writer. Originally I wrote for myself – and to please my parents, to show them that I could do other things. I didn't want them crying because I was sick."

The home environment was ideal. Dad, Saleh Ibrahim was fluent in numerous languages, an idealistic lawyer who quit his profession over issues of principle to become a businessman. The family did well - it owned a major cinema and the house was full of books. If it was a toss up between spending on haberdashery or hardbacks the novels usually won.

It was also a remarkably tolerant environment. Young Ratna was sent to a Christian school, liked some of the rituals and asked her parents if they could celebrate Christmas with a tree. They agreed – and they didn't prohibit her from talking to the prostitutes at a nearby brothel.

"I was taught not to see people for their faults," she said, "but to look at their characters piece-by-piece." It's a quality she has taken into her literature.

Mum was an admirer of intellectual and diplomat Agus Salim who also came from Padang. He was one of the founders of modern Indonesia and a writer of the Constitution who stressed the value of education.

While other kids were running the streets, kicking balls and testing the limits of their bodies and the physical environment, Ratna was exploring the limitless world of imagination.

She was exposed to the works of Anton Chekhov, Guy de Maupassant, Virginia Woolf, Thomas Hardy, Alexandre Dumas and others. Her parents would suggest books she might like – including Karl Marx's manifesto Das Kapital. This was before Soeharto introduced a ban on all works by communists.

"My parents said they would stand by me and visit me in jail if I decided to join the PKI (communist party), but they'd disown me if I was imprisoned for corruption," she said.

She didn't become a Red, but Marx influenced her to consider the plight of the poor, marginalized and dispossessed – the people who now feature in her stories.

Ratna went to Malang's Brawijaya University where her friends had to carry her up stairs to lectures. She wanted to learn more about human psychology but lost interest and channeled her energies into writing and activism.

For 13 years she chaired a Non-Government Organization (NGO) for disabled people, then founded an NGO concerned with environmental issues. She also works for Yayasan Kebudayaan Panjoeng, a cultural foundation to stimulate and preserve local history and the arts.

Her once secluded 93-year old home in central Malang is now overshadowed by a hotel on one side, and a high school on the other. When prayers and public announcements are made on what must be East Java's most raucous and deafening sound system, the mind hibernates for self-protection.

It hardly seems the ideal environment for creativity, but Ratna resting on a bed in her library while she structures her next sentence to be transcribed by secretary and poet Ragil Sukriwul, doesn't seem to mind. She has many visitors who bring her stories that may eventually find a way into her work.

Then there are the students seeking the magic elixir: 'Please tell me how to write.' Ratna's answer is blunt and direct: "Just do it!" So what sort of courses should they take? "Education is not the same as intelligence."

Relationships between the sexes are a major theme in her stories, with situations growing out of male domination of women in a society that's overwhelmingly dogmatic and masculine, and often violent.

Her female characters are usually semi-urban Muslims struggling with life and injustice, battling to raise families while maintaining a sense of self-worth. Their situations are real. Her popularity depends on her readers identifying with the characters and their daily lives. Surprisingly many of her admirers are men.

There are two main streams of women's literature in Indonesia, the traditional romantic novel (love lit) and the new kid on the shelves, sastra wangi (literally 'perfumed writing') but known elsewhere as chick lit.

Ratna rejects both as "pop writing". Despite her distaste she recognizes that the boom in sastra wangi featuring metropolitan teens coming to grips with their sexuality is encouraging young women to learn more about their bodies, human nature and the world they've inherited. "Better read than gossip," she conceded.

The success of these novelettes (check the number of titles in your nearest bookstore) clearly shows there's a great need among curious youngsters constrained by culture and imposed taboos. But it's the open discussion of sex that worries the 58-year old author.

"Sex belongs to God," she said. "It's a matter between two souls, it's not an issue that should be discussed in the open, or treated as vulgar which is how it's handled by men."

She lumps feminism into the same category because of the stress on sex – though in a Western reading of her work she is clearly a feminist writer striving to empower.

The traditional romantic novel is given the flick because it reinforces what Ratna calls the 'Cinderella complex'. This has a passive young woman waiting for some bloke to rescue her from hardships, then transport her to an abode of bliss. How he's constructed this is of no concern to author or reader.

In this genre the woman does little more than hang around, braid her locks, keep her legs together till marriage and look enchanting. She doesn't have to use her initiative or generate ideas. In fact any outburst of intelligence would probably frighten away Mr Right who has a fixation on body, not brains.

Sadly, claims Ratna, Indonesia is an "autistic country." Most women still believe in the Cinderella fantasy, even as they pummel clothes in streambeds, hump water up hills and fall pregnant too early and too often to male chauvinists.

She also attacks public perceptions of Islam as a religion that oppresses women. "People confuse culture with religion," she said. "Islam protects women's rights. It's the culture that creates the role of women in society.

"I want my readers to think about women, how they are treated, to understand their fate. I want to talk humanity – not feminism or individualism and selfishness.

"Our keraton (Javanese regal) culture promotes mutual support. Human beings were created to help each other. Readers will get what they want from my books."

(First published in the SundayPost 17 June 07)##
copyright of Duncan Graham

Anyone there ?

2009-12-03T15:54:00.000+01:00

After almost 2 weeks being on this self blogging challenge.

I just wondering is there anyone there, reading my blog ?

Well...
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Headache

2009-12-02T15:42:00.000+01:00

I got headache and not in the mood to write anything.

And currently is busy reading this book.

Ciao!
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New Moon-ing

2009-12-01T16:30:00.002+01:00

hi all,

still feels tired after all. I just back home watching New Moon on Pejaten Village.

Well, who you gonna choose ? werewolf or vampire ?

Me personally would like to choose werewolf.

he's warm :p hihi

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B : beb, who's you gonna choose if you're bella?
D : werewolf. badannya bagus, kotak2. kalo vampire mah kerempeng....

:p

weird day

2009-11-30T16:15:00.002+01:00

dearest,

i am so tired today. can't type anything, just wonder how weird today is. 2 suicides on 2 malls between 1 day? it is so weird. Even Gi dan sency become a trending topic on twitter. And this-and-that that comes up on my life has completed my weird day.

well, for a while just listen to my favorite song from Endah n Rhesa. When you love someone. im so happy... its like.. i falling in love with Room Eleven on Holland, and in Indonesia, im in love with Endah n Rhesa. :)

Endah N Rhesa - When You Love Someone Lyric:

I love you but it’s not so easy to make you here with me
I wanna touch and hold you forever
But you’re still in my dream
And I can't stand to wait ‘till nite is coming to my life
But I still have a time to break a silence
When you love someone
just be brave to say that you want him to be with you
when you hold your love
don’t ever let it go
or you will loose your chance
to make your dreams come true...
I used to hide and watch you from a distance and i knew you realized
I was looking for a time to get closer at least to say... “hello”
And I can’t stand to wait your love is coming to my life
When you love someone
just be brave to say that you want him to be with you
when you hold your love
don’t ever let it go
or you will loose your chance
to make your dreams come true...
And I never thought that I’m so strong
I stuck on you and wait so long
but when love comes it can’t be wrong
Don’t ever give up just try and try to get what you want
Cause love will find the way....
When you love someone
just be brave to say that you want him to be with you
when you hold your love
don’t ever let it go
or you will loose your chance
to make your dreams come true...

JGTC, here we come :)

2009-11-29T16:37:00.005+01:00

Dear All,

Alhamdullilah, when i wake up this morning, my body is getting better. Thus, as planned, i decided to went to Jazz Goes To Campus at Universitas Indonesia Depok. JGTC is the oldest jazz festival in Indonesia, this year is their 32nd annual festival.

What i like for this year event is their sponsor is not from ciggarete company anymore (talking about no smoking campaign and go green campaign :)). And the stage is better than last year ( i think they learnt something from last year's event) :D. and i also noticed, that this year, they properly prepare for chance of raining, which is, of course, raining all over from 5 - 9 pn. :(

Oh yes, when i got there, raining is start. Since both of us is hungry, we went to food and beverage stand and got kebab as our late lunch. After that, we went around the stage and stopped at stage C to see Nina Aartsen and Jakarta Broadway Team. I like Jakarta Broadway Team (which consits of UI students i think) they are so theatrical and energetic, reminds me of black american people when they make a vocal group :) )

After that, because of heavy raining, we went to the bazzaar and got cutey and cheapy stuffs. Oh, i love the fact that im on campus area because the stuff that they got there is unique and cheap :p. We back again to stage A and saw ecoutez. But because it's raining and lot people bring umbrella, we can't see anything. all is umbrella, but the performance of ecoutez is good :) we love it.

After that, we went to stage B. they got roof that make us protected from rain. we decided to passed maliq & d'essential (owh, in all jazz festivals we got 'em), kulkul , olma ong and Balawan. we thougt it was just useless went there and can't see anything, instead only listening them under the rain!

We were waiting for Endah n Rhesa. Before that we got eriksondhy project. Endah n Rhesa was brilliant, as usual. Sweet thing is they got married next week. They show off their engagement ring. Aw, so sweet, i just knew that they're couple, no wonder they got so much chemistry in their performance :). When i was in blues festival, lot of people didnt know their song, in JGTC, those college students know by heart and sing together. awh! i think i have to buy their CD :) they sings " i dont' remember, when you love someone, uncle jim and few songs"

then we heading home, i say bye secretly to Olma Ong and was happy to see Endah n Rhesa again.

I like JGTC this year, we also has been prepare it better than last year ( we got rain coat, umbrella, jacket, etc). My opinion is since this is a good jazz event, and they has already know that almost every year they got raining, why dont they move it into 'dry season' like from May - August. My bf (who is lecturer) said that in November-December, all that college students have their free times so they can make such a event like this. Well, i think is more nicely that they move it on july/august since the open-air concept that they uses are needed more sun than rain :)

Next week is JakJazz, but i think we passed it. and the ticket for Java Jazz has already on sale. We will check that we want to buy it or not, since Java Jazz really like bazaar and lifestyle event than Jazz festival itself.

wow, it's almost midnight. I'm going to sleep now, peeps :D.

ps: what i love about this event is... i feel 5 years younger since i surronded by college students. ihiy :D

Today's dinner : indian food

2009-11-28T17:03:00.000+01:00

Dearest,

I spent today mostly watching movie on dvd. 3 films : ugly truth, 17 again and laws of attraction. Coincidently, ugly truth and laws of attraction share same idea, which is about men who falling in love with control-freak/though women. At first, the women dislikes the men because they are so laid-off , but turns out they both likes this not-their-type guy. So typically.

For dinner, we went to indian street food near of my home. This is our second visit and we likes the food. Unfortunately, the food that they offers is not much. Today, I got qurma ayam and he got kari ayam. Both turns good as a street-food. If you realy try a good east asian (indian/arabic) food, you can try Al-Jazerra (arabic restaurant) they offers a good nasi kebuli (1 portion for 2 people) with affordable price, and the service is good too :).

Ok, bye now! My body is not feeling well, hope it getting well tommorow as I want to see JGTC! However, last year jgtc remarks not that good memory for me. Heavy rain and crowded audiences! Duh!

Night2 :)

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A family day

2009-11-27T16:29:00.007+01:00

Happy Eid Mubarak you all :)

I feel bit sleepy when i typed this, but i just commited to myself that im gonna have daily blogging and i know nobody gonna mad at me if i didnt blog today, but hey, here you are, a today's update!

I wake up with panic shouts from my brother, who just inform me that he's going to mosque and there is no electricity! luckily, 1 hour later, electricity is back again. Today is a family day, threofore, on noon, we went to my dad's house at Bintaro, and we eat "gulai kambing" and ketupat there.

Besides that, we also playing with dad's dog, sammy, and the kids has been introduce us with their new skateboard. I thought, the general skateboard is only with 4 wheels, but, in the future (yes, i did small research) the skateboard improves with lot types, one of them is this. the skateboard with only two small wheels. You really need balances to operate it. Me and my brother try it but it's so difficult for us, grown ups. we even can't stand on it. I tried to reserach the name of skateboard that they have, but i can't find on google (or maybe i was wrong with the name of skateboard that they mentioned to me), however, they bought it on Ace Hardware.

After that, we went dinner to a new steamboat restaurant in Sektor 9, Bintaro. the food is good, but the service is too slow. not bad. :)

enough for today, i'm so happy that we have long weekend, and on sunday maybe i'll visit Jazz Goes To Campus at UI, since the JakJazz ticket is quite expensive and im on tight shopping budget. Hope there is no heavy rain for JGTC this year!

Introduce you : Grazia Indonesia Magazine

2009-11-26T06:30:00.002+01:00

In the end of Jakarta Fashion week, Feminagroup has just launched new women lifestyle magazine, Grazia Indonesia.

Grazia has targeted to fulfill the demands of fashion and international / national celebs information. targeted to 20 - 45 y.o make this magazine could be read by general adult women. The concept is more like Oke or People. For you, who live in Netherlands, maybe already aware with this magazine :)

Last year, Feminagroup have Bestlife as a new magazine, this year, we launched Grazia, which make me wonder, what they gonna launched next year ? For you, what 'aboard' magazine that you wanna read in Indonesia ? Vogue ? Women's Weekly? Instyle?
Let me know :)

bye readers :)

layout changes

2009-11-25T17:41:00.002+01:00

I make some changes, but actually after 7 years with bloggers, i got bored with their basic layout. However, i dont have time to get fancier layout these times. Hopely on December (since i know they have lot of holiday) i can make a new changes for this blogger.

I also make new arrangement on page element and remove anything that didn't work.

Hope you like it :D

What, entrance ticket to Museum Nasional (aka Museum Gajah) only Rp. 750,- (oh yes, single zero)

2009-11-25T16:29:00.005+01:00

Hi there,

today is an adventorus day. i kinda like it.

Today, i got day off and went to Museum Nasional (or aka Museum Gajah) and i just got surprised when found out that the entrance ticket is only Rp. 750 (with single zero). I know lot people gonna commenting " with this low price still there is no people that coming to museum ". I know it, but when someone is going to Museum, that means this particular person has already 'commit' to go to museum and when the price is affordable ( i think Rp. 10.000 - 20.000 counts as affordable) people gonna pay it for sure. The price is really shocking us.

And actually, compare to other museums in Kota, this museum quiet good and got a good care for government. This museum divided into two, the old museum and the new & modern museums which good arrangement, good lighting and clear explanation. The museum is pretty big which we takes about 1,5 hour to getting around them.

And yes, it is interesting, you can see our culture and heritage from papua until Aceh. and they gonna see us how rich we are. And they also have "Gold Area" when we can see some our gold jewelry that found in Indonesia.

Too bad i can't take picture inside museum. they doesn't allow us. Only few guests that we see inside museum, most of them is high school students and one or two 'bule'. I dont know this because this is not holiday season or others.

Well, the next museums that im planning to see in Jakarta is Museum Prasasti. Do you have any other advices for museum must visit at Jakarta? i'd love to hear :)

see ya :)

stupid

2009-11-24T17:14:00.001+01:00

why i cannot upload picture here. Duh, first media really annoys me deh. i can't open some my blogger friends. I heard that they misleading some instruction from depkominfo. They said that they should banned www.komicxxx.blogspot.com but instead block that spesific website, they block all blogspot websites which includes me.

stupid. hope they work on this asap since i just give my guts to daily blogging again.

Monas, here we come!

2009-11-24T16:17:00.003+01:00

Dear there,

so, this is my second post for my blogging challenges (oh no, i'm not gonna give up that easy). Now is 22:45, my tv is still broadcast about Bank Century/bibit-chandra national/hottest case in Indonesia. and this more interesting, since they already mutated Suseno after not-that-clear SBY speech (and lucky i didnt vote SBY back then, so i can critizes him without any guilty feeling attached :p)

ok, enough about politic talking. I already got enough today.

Today, I accompany my dear upik to see Monas (which i completely forgot how to get there, so there are some adventures on bus transjakarta and how to get enter Monas,which still through tunnel), there are some interesting conversation that nice to noted.

J : what is that ? *pointed to Gambir, next to Monas
B : That's Gambir, the busiest and biggest train station in Jakarta (and maybe, Indonesia ?
J : What? that's the biggest and busiest ? it's just like train stasion at Hoofdorp (hoofdorp is a small city in Holland)
B : well, that looks that this station haven't been renovated since your people build that like 100 years ago :p
J : that's what i thinking :D

----
*after looking on diorama on history museum*

J : why my country have to takes 4 years before acknowledge your independency ? that sounds ridicoulus.
B : haha, i think your country didn't want to lose Indonesia.. really have big..
J : assests, yes.

and then we went to Plaza Senayan to met mr. Busy Berly and my bf, we got dinner on Sushi Tei. It was the lekker one :D

After that we got around Plaza Senayan, and Jeroen bough a pair of Puma shoes there, when im on shopping tight budget, and upik can not decided what she gonna get :D

i really have a good time :) and looking forward for one tommorow. :D

ciao readers, good night !

M-TIX , Easy way to get your 21 movie tickets

2009-11-23T07:51:00.003+01:00

Hi there,

I want to share you my new findings, maybe this pretty late for some people. As for me, i heard lot about this, but never applied it.

Yes, this is M-Tix. Mobile ticketing from 21 movie (the bigest Indonesia movie theatre), which make you say bye to queuing.

When i was told to my friend that i can't get 2012 ticket for the second times, because it always sold out when i came to movie, she told me about this M-Tix. On Saturday, when i went to Citos to try my luck for 2012 movie (and i thought, because the issue that MUI gonna banned this movie, make this movie always sold out eventhough CITOS has 3 theaters that screening this movie), i told my boyfriend that i'm gonna apply for M-Tix.

The registrations is very simple. You only deposit Rp. 150.000,- and you has already registered to M-Tix. Yesterday night, i open to their website and reserved 2 tickets for 2012 movie today. And the progress is very fast and simple. i really like it. :)

the next is, i'm gonna reserved for New Moon, but don't know the time yet since tommorow Upik is coming to Jakarta :) can't wait to meet her :)!

Bye for now, readers (if any, hihi) :)

My-Self Blogging Challenge

2009-11-23T06:29:00.002+01:00

Dear readers (if any),

Inspired by Julie/Julia Movie Projects, I challenged myself to back to my blogging activity. For this time, I also challenges myself to blog daily, in English and is about everything around my environment that interested me.

I also noticed myself that it could be only a short text and prefer using images / pictures.

This challenges is only for 3 months since until January i have plans that make my life become more interesting than before. And i also challenges myself to become a good blogger, who visiting other blogs and give comments to them (to proves them that my blog is existed)

Ok, time and plan is set. the next post is my first post for this challenges.

bye for now.

Lebaran 2009 updates :)

2009-09-28T09:30:00.006+02:00

Hey semua....

Bener-bener deh, gara2 twitter, hasrat untuk menulis blog jadi banyak berkurang. Rasanya kolom 140 kata itu sudah bisa menampung aspirasi ketika ada ide tiba2 yang ingin di share ke temen2 yang lain. Belum lagi, ternyata smartphone yang baru dibeli dari perjuangan airmata itu (halah, lebay :p) benar-benar bisa menampung hasrat 'civilian journalist' yang ada didalam diri ini. Ke tempat aneh sedikit, fotonya langsung bisa di upload ke facebook :)

Anyway,... ini berbagai updates yang dilakukan selama bulan puasa ini :

1. Million Dollar Restaurant, Pasar Festival, Kuningan.

Ini restaurant recommended bagi yang ingin makan sushi affordable dengan generous porsi. Ketemunya ga sengaja sih, karena di daerah kuningan sushi yang deket adalah sushigroove di Setiabudi building, dan sushigroove porsinya terlalu kecil-kecil dan harganya jadi mahal berbanding dengan porsinya, plus pernah makan salmon disana dan ternyata gak seger. :(

Restaurant baru di pojok pasar festival ini, ternyata harganya affordable sekitar 10 - 50 ribu. Dan uniknya, mungkin karena aku makan disana setiap buka puasa, takjil nya free dan super unik. Gambar diatas adalah gambar gabungan antara puding, tempura kurma , roti goreng, kulit ayam. Highly recommended, downsidenya cmn satu, wasabinya kurang pedes dan pelit ngasihnya :(

2. Lebaran di Bintaro

Berhubung si kakak tahun ini lebaran di rumah mertuanya di Martapura, lebaran kali ini dihabiskan di rumah ayah di Bintaro. Nah, di rumah Ayah ini punya anjing lucu namanya Sammy. Jadi ketika Ayah harus silahturahmi ke keluarga istrinya, aku bermain-main dengan si anjing lucu ini.

3. Ke Semarang

Yes, reuni tanggal 23 kemarin, jadi event yang pas buat aku balik Semarang, selain mengunjungi makam mama tentunya. Dan tentu saja, sambil mencari2 barang Mama yang bisa diborong balik dan melihat2 foto jaman dulu yang rajin dikoleksi sama Mama.

Foto diatas adalah sebagiaan foto-foto aku ultah dari kecil sampai umur 12an. Masih imut yaaa :)

4. Baking

Akhirnya baking lagiii, kemarin minggu bikin cheese brownies & kurma brownies, cmn agak kurang berhasil. Kuenya ga gembur,malah padahal rasanya udah lumayan. :( but gonna try again :) *semangat memasak sudah mulai timbul gara2 kemarin sempet nyuci sendiri dan masak sendiri*

sampai sini dulu ya updatesnya....

quote from my former secret blog

2009-09-11T11:42:00.002+02:00

After reading http://lajnmen.blogspot.com/2009/09/si-lajang-secret-blog.html , about a secret blog that you have when you were PDKT with ur significant one, and i feel like, oh yes, i do have one. I did write it when i was 2005's, when i had roller coaster feeling with my beibeb.

this is my favorite quote, when i try to picture my dream boy, which i really hope that he is the one.

anyway, i am looking a boy who can count me in.. who can controlling me, who can advicing me.. who can spoilling me.. who can understand my problem dan didnt burned because of my problem..
who can cheer me up when i broken down..
who can share my story to him..

Oh yes, he's the one :)

Selamat berpuasa

2009-08-21T17:52:00.000+02:00

All my friends, selamat berpuasa ya :) mudah2an puasa kali ini membawa banyak berkah.

For me, berharap puasa kali ini lebih produktif, lebih bermakna, dan lebih mendekat ke Allah.

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Putri Duyung Cottage

2009-08-09T09:15:00.000+02:00

Kemarin baru aja raker di Putri Duyung cottage, ancol.

Karena saya selalu mencintai pantai, trip kali ini menyenangkan setelah terakhir ke pantai adalah tahun lalu, setelah lebaran di anyer.

Putri duyung ini memang salah satu cottage tertua di kawasan ancol. Bangunannya masih belum berubah.

Walau pantainya ga bisa buat main air, aku sempat berenang di kolam renangnya. Kolam renangnya itu ada di sebuah kapal yg menjorok ke laut.

*capek ngetik lewat BB, segini dulu ah :p
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July....

2009-07-25T18:19:00.002+02:00

Vandaag is mijn jarig! thanks buat semuan teman yang udah nyelamatin lewat FB, sms dan telfon, terutama buat teman2 di fb... wow... looking all the people that commenting and wishing my birthday, buat aku senang karena memang ada teman-teman yang care dengan aku :) terimakasih ya doanya. :D

Cerita ultah dimulai dari hari kemarin, yang kebetulan kita (anak2 lifestyle iklan femina) lagi karaokean di Inul Vizta Thamrin untuk merayakan ulang tahunnya mbak Tri, my GAM. Memang, kebetulan banget di group ku ini ulang tahunnya berbarengan, tgg; 24 itu mbak tri, 25 itu aku dan 26 itu mas Fajar, Dewi Ad manager. Sebagai jabatan yg paling junior mestinya aku ikutan mereka aja yah :D haha.

Karaokean sendiri dimulai dari jam setengah 9 (setelah sebelumnya makan nasi uduk Kebon Kacang) sampai jam setengah 1. Jadi jam 12 nya mereka semua nyanyi dan nyelamatin aku... *hiks, terharu... haha* dan hadiahnya, mereka mencekokin aku dengan segelas besar bir. Sambil mereka berkomentar, " Gapapa Bulan, udah cukup umur sekarang," hahahha :D

Paginya kita beres2 di kantor, kebetulan Feminagroup akan mempunyai satu majalah baru, dibawah mbak Tri dengan beberapa AE baru akan bergabung, jadinya kita men arrange lagi layout meja2 kita. Emang ya itu kantor, isinya cuman barang2 dan majalah, bener2 kayak gudang. Proses bersih2 dimulai dari jam 10 sampai jam 4 sore. Bener2 kerja bakti :D

Malemnya (baru saja) ngajak makan anak2 belanda yg di jakarta, standar sih yg dateng (4L, lo lagi-lo lagi :p), mas berly, khrisma, intan, ulma, dan mbak anggi and her hubby. Dika sakit, dan mbak Laura lagi sibuk Fashion Show... (dasar model :p, u missed ur bestfriend birthday :D). Kita makan di Sky Dining semanggi, restoran radja ketjil, abis itu lanjut ngopi2 di Starbucks (mas berly treats! hihi).

Sepertinya begitu dulu cerita tentang ulang tahun, kita agak tarik ke belakang dulu cerita ttg bulan Juli.

Juli ini, aku banyak sakit! di minggu pertama sempet ga masuk 2 hari gara2 maag dan diare akut, kebetulan aku sakit pas di libur kecepit pemilu, jadinya i got long weekend, tapi percaya deh, sama sekali ga menarik sakit perut itu, menyiksa banget.

Kemudian minggu berikutnya aku ke kawinannnya si Dika, my very bestfriend, di Semarang. Aku dan beibeb kesana naik pesawat, sedangkan ayah dan si tante naik mobil *kata ayah, mau menikmati masa pensiun :p*.

Ternyata bukan keputusan yang benar, hari Jumat (17/7) itu ternyata ada Bom di JW Mariott yang bikin suasana hari itu benar2 kacau balau. Dan yang lebih parah adalah truk menggelinding di pintu tol angke yang buat perjalanan ke bandara jadi 3 jam lebih dan sukses buat aku hampir ketinggalan pesawat. Pesawat jam 18.20 aku baru nyampai di bandara jam 18.50. Lari2 untuk check in, yang -thanksGod- Lion Air nya mau nungguin kita. Gimana nggak, hampir 1/4 dari isi pesawat itu terlambat gara2 macet gila2an di tol dalam kota! Kita naik pesawat jam 18.20 dan pesawat itu akhirnya terbang jam 7 malem. Bersyukur banget, ga harus repot cari pesawat pengganti..

Besok paginya datang ke acara akad nikah dika, nuansanya hijau, dan walau telat, aku ada saat Bayu mengucapkan ijab kabul itu. Owh, one of my bf is a wife now! *smooch*
Siangnya datang ke acara resepsi. She looks pretty and her hubby is so tall! dika cuman sepundaknya gitu :p

Acara resepsinya itu beda dari biasanya, jadi disana kita duduk di round table dan menunggu makanannya datang. Makanannya enak2 :D tapi sayang, karena ayah harus balik ke Jakarta aku disana cmn sampai jam 2. setelah cipika cipiki dan foto, kita balik.
Besok minggunya baru kita pulang kembali ke Jakarta.

and to finish this lovely month, hari senin ini aku ambil cuti! hahha, ga kemana2 sih cmn pengen berleha2 aja, to recharge my energy.

and thanks for the presents friends! :D

ps: sekarang lebih suka update status di twitter, karena lebih simple, cepat, walo terbatas cmn 140 words. :)